Theoretical Developments and Conceptualization of Disassociation

Since the early 1990s, many theoretical models from different disciplines have emerged to provide a broader perspective of our understanding of the disruption of memory, consciousness, and identity. Contributions in the field of neurobiology ( Bremner et al. 2003; Bremner, 2005; Stein Koverola, Hanna, Torchia & McClarty, 1997; Vermetter, Schmahl, Lindner, Lowenstein & Bremner, 2006 ), examine how trauma affects certain brain structures and impairs consciousness and memory.

The Attachment and Relational Theories, Liotti, (1992, 2009 ), Lyons, Ruth and Jacobvitz, (1999 ); Main & Solomon, ( 1986 ); Siegel, (1999 ), focus on the child’s traumatic relationship with the parent and the development of dissociative processes and disorders.

In the dissociative field a number of theories have emerged. Putnam (1997 ) views dissociation as a defence mechanism to overwhelming fear of annihilation resulting in compartmentalization of painful affect and memories and an estrangement from self.

Van der Hart, Nijenhuis, and Steele ( 2006 ), detailed their model, Structural Dissociation of the Personality, based on early works of Pierre Janet, in which the traumatized self separates according to two complex action systems. One system, the apparently normal personality, ANP, enables an individual to preform necessary functions such as work. The emotional personality, EP, is action system fixated at the time of the trauma to defend from threats. The EP contains traumatic memories and associated traumatic affect thoughts and behaviours. These action systems can further fragment into tertiary systems containing many ANPs and EPs that take on additional actions for the self.

Stein and Kendall ( 2004 ) present the Global Psychological Effects of Chronic Traumatic Stress on Children model. Based on the early works of Lenore Terr’s Type 2 Trauma (1991 ) that examines the impact of chronic trauma on the child’s developing brain, alterations in consciousness and memory, disturbance in identity, difficulty in regulating emotions and level of arousal, hyperactivity and attention, relationship problems, and alterations in belief system.

The proposed developmental trauma disorder, Van der Kolk et al. ( 2009 ), for consideration in the DSM-V focuses on on the impact of multiple exposures to interpersonal trauma that causes dysregulation of somaetic, affective, self and relational and post traumatic spectrum spectrum symptoms. This disorder lasts more than six months and causes significant functional impairment inducing dissociation. ( Assessing & Diagnosing Dissociation in children: Beginning the recovery. Waters, F.S. 2012 )

The first reported case of childhood dissociation by Antoine Despine in 1836 was of a 12-year-old girl, Estelle ( Ellenberger, 1970 ). However, it wasn’t until a century later that a slow resurgence of writings about childhood dissociation occurred( Bowers, Bix, & Coons, 1985; Braun, 1985; Riley and Mead, 1988; Chu and Dill, 1990; Coons, 1985; Fagan and McMahon, 1984; Kluft, 1984-1985; Weiss, Sutton and Utecht, 1985 ). Since then, there is a steadily growing literature on the topic, including historical perspectives Silberg, 2000; Silberg & Dallam,2009 ) research studies, Becker-Blease et al., 2004, 2011; Kisiel & Lyons 2001; Macfie, Cicchetti and Toth 2001; Shimizu and Sakamoto 1986 ), comorbidity studies, Kaplowa, Hallb, Koenenc, Dodged, & Amaya-Jacksone, 2008; Malinosky-Rummel & Holer, 1991; case studies, Coons, 1996, Dell & Eisenhower, 1990; Stolbach, 2005, Waters, 2011; theoretical, Putnam, 1997: and clinical books, Sirar, 1996; Silberg, 1996, 1998; Weiland, 2011; dissociative checklists,
Armstrong, Putnam, Carlso, Libero, & Smith, 1997, Dell, 2006, Evers-Szostak & Sanders, 1992, Putnam Helmers & Trickett, 1993, Steinberg, 1994, Stolbach, 1997 ), and conferences around the globe.

While the bulk of the literature has continued predominantly to focus on adult dissociation. These efforts shed light on how to accurately assess dissociation in children and are slowly gaining momentum in educating professionals, academics, parents, and teachers about the convoluted presentations of dissociative youth.

Dissociation can be non-pathological or pathological. Some signs of non-pathological dissociation are daydreaming or zoning out, fantasy or absorption while playing a video game, these experiences do not involve any self-fragmentation and generally do not hinder the overall adjustment of the child unless there is some compulsive quality such as hours of computer game playing that interrupts sleep or homework

Pathological dissociation can range from moderate to severe. Moderate forms are derealization and depersonalization. Moving along the continuum of severity is the formation of self-states. These self-states may only operate internally without taking executive control over the body, but nevertheless they can greatly influence the child’s mood, sensations, behaviour, and memory. These children are diagnosed with dissociative disorders not otherwise specified, DDNOS.

The most severe form of dissociation in the presence of discrete self states that takes executive control over the body, resulting in considerable memory problems, identity confusion, and more pronounced mood and behavioral switches, these children would meet the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder. ( Francis S. Waters, 2012 ).

Clinical Interviews – General Framework

Diagnosis may include the following components ( these are essential ):

  1. Screening Tests
  2. Clinical Interviews
  3. Structured Clinical Interviews
  4. Psychological Testing
  5. Comorbid Conditions
  6. Medical Evaluation
  7. Pharmacological Evaluation and Hypnotic Interventions
  8. Ongoing Assessment During Treatment

Clinical Interviews

A complete history from reliable informants as well as from the child, is the basic starting point for assessment. In interviews of the child, the family, and of other third parties, pay attention to the following.

( a ) .imaginary friends and other transitional objects, auditory and visual hallucinations, perplexing forgetfulness, intrusive thoughts and feelings, numbing, anxiety, nightmares, self-injury, flashbacks, somatic concerns, sexual concerns, depersonalization and derealization, and identity alteration and confusion.

( b )The family environment, physical and emotional safety;  dysfunctional family patterns; history of psychiatric illness of all family members; family secrets that may impact on the child; sources of support outside the immediate family; practices or beliefs which are unusual for the family’s culture and ethnicity.

( c )  Areas of specific relevance to dissociation from books, movies, or family conversations. The family’s investment or interest in or understanding of dissociation. Multi-generational history of dissociation. ( Braun, 1985; Coons, 1985; Yeager & Lewis,1996 ). The child’s functioning in other settings, e.g.. school, with peers.

( d ) Balancing predisposing, precipitating, and pre-perpetuating factors. The latter includes current life circumstances that maintain the disruptive symptoms even if the dissociative patterns were established at an earlier age. Perpetuating factors are important for appropriate treatment. Families may try to focus exclusively on the child’s past history and resist looking at their own current dysfunction.

Particular attention in history gathering of trauma should include whether the child’s parents were available to assist the child to cope, any signs of dissociative symptoms should be explored. Since parents often do not know what dissociative signs are, educating them about indicators will elicit a more accurate and complete response.

( Francis S. Waters, 2012 ).

Principals and teachers are frequently the first to detect clear signs of dissociation with their students, which is critical to a diagnosis and treatment design ( Waters, 2011 ). noting amnesia, trace behaviors, and extreme mood switches ( Waters, 2012 ).

The early discovery and management of fluid dissociative states in children can prevent them from solidifying and can make rapid integration more feasible, thus preventing adult years of dysfunction. A positive transference with the therapist is crucial for facilitating the recovery process ( Waters, 2005 ).

A “ precursor “ or proclivity to dissociate should be analyzed. Predominantly when there is fear of loss and abandonment, coupled with witnessing domestic violence or experiencing other forms of trauma, particularly given current research showing the relationship between dissociation and disorganized detachment ( Waters F. 2005 ).

Briere, Hodges and Godbout, ( 2010 ), found that dysfunctional avoidance was associated with accumulated trauma exposure and mediated by post-traumatic stress and affect dysregulation. Briere, I. Hodges, M. and Godbout, N. ( 2010 ) Trauma stress affect dysregulation and dysfunctional avoidance. A structured equation model.

Testing Instruments

These are useful, though neither essential nor diagnostic, and may alert the clinician to more depth interviewing of child and caregivers regarding dissociative symptoms and experiences.

The Self-Report Questionnaires for the child Include:

The Adolescent Dissociative Experience Scale, A-DES, the Children’s Perceptual Alteration Scale, CPAS, and the Dissociative Questrionaire DisQ, the adolescent version of the Multi-Dimensional Inventory of Dissociation ( MID ).

Caregivers may screen for dissociative behaviours with the Child Dissociative Checklist.

Testing Instruments for Dissociative Disorders

Measures include the Dissociative Experiences Scale, DES, the DES Taxon Scale, DES-T, the Adolescent DES, A-DES,, the Dissociative Disorders Interview Schedule, D-DIS, the Clinician Administered Dissociative States Scale, CADSS, and the Structured Clinical Interview for DSM Dissociative Disorders, SCID-D.

Greater trauma severity and chronicity is generally associated with increased dissociative symptoms, higher dissociation scores on standard measures, and a diagnosis of a dissociative disorder. Studies show that earlier and cumulative trauma, as well as early life attachment pathology, particularly Disorganized Type D attachment, strongly predict elevated dissociation scores on standard measures in later life and/or development of a dissociative disorder.

Taken together, the majority of psychometric tools available are either time-consuming, rely exclusively on self-report, or focus on trait dissociation, typically assessed across a longer time span, and thus are well suited to assess acute dissociation. The Clinician administered dissociative states scale ( CADSS ) : Validation of the German version. Mertens & Daniels, ( 2021 ).

Several assessment instruments covering different aspects of dissociation exist ( Spitzer et al. 2017 ), the gold standard being the structured clinical interview for DSM-IV, Dissociative Symptoms and Disorders ( SCID-D;  Steinberg, 1994;  exhibiting good validity and high discriminatory power, according to a recent meta-analysis. ( Mychailyszyn et al., 2020 ). Other available diagnostic interviews are the dissociative disorders interviews are the Dissociative Disorders Interview Schedule ( DDIS; Ross et al., 1989 ).and the recently developed Dissociative Subtype of PTSD interview ( DSP-1, Eidhoff et al., 2019 ).

Misdiagnosis

Information on the treatment of dissociation was not available when most clinicians did their training, and it is important to organize clinical information to help familiarize clinicians with current treatment approaches.

Dissociation, often elicited by distressing internal or external stimuli, is a notoriously difficult construct to assess and it not only encompasses a variety of related yet distinct symptom patterns but can also be conceptualized as temporary transient state as well as a general ( pathological ) trait ( Carlson et al., 2018; Condon and Lyon 2014 ).

Few mental health training programs educate about dissociation and the diagnosis and treatment of dissociative disorders. In the author’s experience, many clinicians, researchers, journalists, and members of the public have beliefs about dissociation, dissociative disorders founded on unexamined ideas and influenced by media portrayals. Often both skeptical and naively credulous views of dissociative disorders appear to be based on the media portrayal, not the scientific literature. American Psychiatric Association Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM-5, 5th edition, Washington, D.C. Association Debates Everything You Know Is Wrong. Lowenstein, Richard, ( 2018 ).

By the time many dissociative disorder patients are correctly diagnosed, they are demoralized and have suffered substantial secondary losses from years of unproductive treatment, hospitalizations, suicide attempts, disfiguring self-harm, disability, and careers as chronic treatment-resistant patients. Trans-diagnostically elevated dissociation predicts poorer clinical outcome unless directly treated. Lowenstein, R. ( 2018 ).

Diagnosis and Treatment of Dissociation

Dissociative disorders are a major public health issue. Dissociative disorder patients represent a large underserved population whose lack of recognition leads to substantial human and societal costs.

Males with dissociative disorders, and suicidal and self-destructive behavior needs to be part of efforts to lower suicide risk in general and clinical populations. Every mental health training program should devote substantial resources to education about trauma-related disorders, including dissociation, dissociative disorders. Most dissociative disorders research, like the recent treatment outcome studies, has been bootstrapped by dedicated researchers with minimal external funding. Funding should be directed to dissociation, dissociative disorder research. The fantasy is that dissociative disorder patients do not exist. The socio-cognitive problem is the cultural and professional dismissal and obliviousness to the extent and severity of the kind of trauma that generates dissociation, dissociative disorders, and the ubiquity of dissociative disorder patients. Failure to properly diagnose and treat dissociative disorders has a very high human cost. This is the real iatrogenesis.

Also the child’s staring, inattention and or, freeze activity may be misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. If professionals focus primarily on these disruptive behaviors without understanding the contextual relationship between parent and child, as well as the underlying connotations, they might miss their true significance. Then if they employ a strictly behavioral approach, it is likely to be ineffectual.

The occurrence of maltreatment and the resulting dissociative mechanisms may easily be overlooked and at worst persist. Recognizing Dissociation in Preschool Children. Fran S. Waters, ( 2005 ).

Because dissociative children have a high comorbidity and a continuation of misinformation about dissociation, these children continue to be misdiagnosed for more popular or widely known diagnoses such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, ( ADHD ), bipolar, psychoses, conduct disorder, etc. resulting in cumulative years of emotional pain, identity confusion, memory problems, unresolved trauma, and ineffectual treatment ( McElroy 1992; Waters 2005a ).

Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder – ADHD

There are many overlapping symptoms with ADHD and dissociation that often mask the dissociation. Clinicians who are unfamiliar with dissociative signs of trance states will ascribe traumatized inattention or daydreaming to ADHD. Research by Malinosky, Rummel and Hoier ( 1991 ) cite these similarities with traumatized children who scored in the significant range on dissociative checklist as well as on the CBCL’s dissociative symptoms. As noted before under assessment tools, common signs on the CBCL for dissociation that are particularly seen with children with ADHD are inattention, feeling in a fog, staring and daydreaming. It is crucial for proper treatment that trauma and dissociation be evaluated before assuming that it is ADHD, inattention type. Malinowski, Rummel R. and Hoier T.S. ( 1991 ), validating measures in dissociation in sexually abused and non-abused children.

Differential Diagnosis

In a differential diagnosis, there are dissociation look-alikes. Dissociation symptom, visual or auditory hallucinations, other first rank psychotic symptoms and dissociative identity disorder can be confused with psychotic disorder. Dissociation symptom, blanking out- cognitive disruption, can be confused with ADHD seizures. Dissociation symptom, somatoform conversion symptoms, can be confused with a variety of non-psychiatric medical problems, including pelvic or abdominal pathology, and headaches. Dissociation symptom, dissociative memory lapses can be confused with learning disability, not paying attention, ,Dissociation symptom. Switching between states can be confused with bipolar disorder, rapid cycling. Dissociation symptom. Lack of emotional reaction to traumatic stimuli-numbing response, can be confused with healthy coping.

Severe Dissociation

Adolescents with persistent self-harm tended to have a higher risk of SDIS. DIS may be a target to prevent future self-harm in adolescents. Intensive attention should be given to adolescents with persistent SDIS since they have a rather higher risk of self-harm. The longitudinal relationship between dissociative symptoms and self-harm in adolescents, a population-based cohort study Tanaka et al. ( 2023 ).

Medical Causes of Dissociation

Because complete partial seizures can cause dissociative symptoms, consider evaluating patients for seizures, head trauma, and structural lesions. Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures, PNES, often occur in conjunction with early trauma, dissociative symptoms and PTSD.

Recreational drugs such as ketamine, methylenedioxymethamphetamine- ecstasy, hallucinogens, marijuana and dextromethorphan also can induce dissociative states. consider evaluating for use of these substances, some of which may not be detected on a routine drug screen. Dissociative disorders unclear ? Think rainbows rom pain blows. MacDonald, K ( 2008 )

These children suffer from dissociation even if they don’t qualify for our present categories of DID or even DDNOS. They are unable to experience one important part of their lives as it is, encourage these children and other people experiencing separation of the parts of their emotional lives and attachments to experience the conflicted aspects of their emotional life simultaneously rather than in a dissociated sequence. Dissociated Parental Alignment. Miller A, (1999 ).

Medical Evaluation

The evaluator must rule out general medical disorders that may mimic dissociative symptoms. These include seizure disorders, other neurological conditions, exposure to toxins or legal or illegal drug effects. ( Graham, 1998, Lewis, 1996 ).

Evaluations for Parents

The standards of practice guidelines of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, ISSTD, suggests that the children of dissociated parents also be evaluated by a professional familiar with the indicators for dissociative disorders and child abuse. These are children who are at risk for a wide variety of psychiatric conditions due to the instability in their families, risk of exposure to violence and possible genetic factors. ISSTD 2023

Treatment

Hypnotherapy for children and adolescents has been described for rapidly accessing ego states and promoting integration ( Bowman, Blitz and Coons, 1985; Dell and Eisenhower, 1990;  Kluft, 1985, 2000 ) or for containment of intense affect, ego strengthening, education and support. Williams and Velazquez ( 1996 ). However, hypnotherapy is not advised for memory retrieval. In cases where hypnosis is deemed appropriate, the therapist should gain informed consent from caregivers or guardians as well as clients. The therapist should explore all legal implications given that witness credibility for any upcoming court hearings could be affected.

Pharmacotherapy

( a. ) There are no controlled studies on the use of medications with dissociative children, adolescents or adults.

( b. ). Some clinicians have found that psychotropic medication may be of benefit for children and adolescents with dissociative symptoms and disorders as an adjunct to psychotherapy to ameliorate targeted symptoms such as incapacitating anxiety, insomnia, mobility, behavioral discontrol, Inability to Focus Attention and Depression ( Nemzer 1998; Putnam 1997; Silberg, Stippik, and Taghizadeh 1997 ).

( c ), Medications may be utilized to treat comorbid conditions such as ADHD, major depression, OCD, or PTSD,

( d ), close communication and teamwork between the prescribing physician and the therapist is essential.

Family Therapy

Work with the primary caregivers may include education about dissociation, Waters, 1998. Specific guidance about parenting strategies which facilitate therapy ( Boat, 1991 ). Family Sessions to encourage family to accept all aspects of a child (Waters and Silberg, 1998b ). Correcting interactive patterns that promote dissociation ( Benjamin and Benjamin, 1993; Silberg, 2001 ). Helping parents process guilt or denial about traumatic events ( Keren & Tyano 2000; Silberg in press ). Working through our feelings about issues of safety and betrayal to help establish trust( Waters, 1998 ), and straightforward parenting advice or training which is part of all good child therapy. In educating parents, change any literal views the family may have about the reality of alters as separate from the child, while explaining how dissociation evolves in a traumatized child. Parents can be taught to encourage the child’s direct expression of thoughts and feelings without reinforcing dysfunctional dissociative strategies. The therapist can also help the family identify current reinforcers that maintain the symptomatology.

Therapists should take note of situations where these conflicts cannot be resolved without a concomitant change in the environment. For example, children may be caught in custody battles with widely divergent expectations between parents that may lead to a fragmented sense of identity. The child alone cannot resolve this unless the environmental pressure is relieved.

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, EMDR, can assist children in working through through experiences for which they have very little or no explicit memory or experiences that they find too difficult to talk about in detail ( Greenwald 1993;  Finker and Wilson 1999 ). Ego strengthening and calming techniques are advisable prior to using EMDR to avoid destabilization.

Special Cautions in the Treatment of Dissociative Symptomatology

The following are common pitfalls in working with dissociative children and families. 1. Achievement of physical safety is a primary goal that supersedes any other therapeutic work. Reports to local child protection services are required whenever issues of child maltreatment are suspected. Clinicians must follow reporting guidelines within their own regional jurisdictions. In cases where the therapist concludes that current legally dictated arrangements are not in the child’s best interest, it is the therapist’s obligation to provide recommendations to the child’s current caregiver, advocate, caseworker, court-appointed attorney, or guardian ad litem regarding the therapist’s findings.

If the child appears to be regressing in therapy, the therapist should review the course of treatment, evaluate safety in the environment, evaluate possible stressors, e.g. court testimony, visitations, too much focus on traumatic events, and seek other consultations regarding how to modify the treatment approach so that the child is progressing along a developmental trajectory that is as normalizing as possible. Overly special or zealous interventions, i.e. isolating children from peers or school for long periods of time, physical restraint systems tend to reinforce dissociation rather than curb it and may support a family’s or system’s entrenched beliefs about a child’s incapacities. Families may defensively concentrate on the past and avoid discussion of the current stressors that maintain dissociative adaptations. The therapist should help the family find creative solutions to current problems.

The existing literature on the efficacy of trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy on dissociation is limited in both child as well as adolescent Trauma-Focused CBT on dissociation is limited in both child as well as adolescent populations. Trauma-Focussed CBT in an adolescent with mixed dissociative disorder: A case study Hussain, E. Ershad ( 2023 ).

Treatment of Dissociative Amnesia

Treatments for Dissociative Amnesia include cognitive therapy, medication, hypnosis, and hospitalization.

Several clinical implications can be drawn from this study. First, interventions for DIS should be considered to prevent future self-harm in adolescents, even if they do not currently engage in self-harm. The interventions may focus on distress, which promotes DIS. Second, intensive attention should be given to adolescents who have repeated SDIS since they are at a specifically high risk of self-harm. Persistent SDIS may be regarded as a repression of unresolved persistent distress ( Brand, B.L., Classen, CC, McNary, S.W., Zaveri, P. 2009 ). A review of dissociative disorders treatment studies.

Dissociative Amnesia

No empirical studies have assessed the treatment of dissociative amnesia. Current information is based upon case studies and will be discussed briefly. Prior to beginning treatment, it is essential to determine that the amnesia is dissociative in origin. That is, neurological and or medical causes must be ruled out. Clients with acute onset are typically treated more aggressively than clients presenting with chronic amnesia. ( Maldonado, et al., 2002 ).

Chronic Amnesia

Pharmacologically facilitated intervention is not recommended. Hypnosis may be beneficial in recovering and working through traumatic memories at a pace comfortable for the client. Reframing of the traumatic experiences can occur during the hypnotic process. The goal of therapy is the integration of dissociated material. Treatment of chronic dissociative amnesia is typically long term ( Maldonado et al., 2002 )

Acute Amnesia

In clients with acute presentation of amnesia, it is first necessary to provide a safe therapeutic environment ( Maldonado, et al., 2002 ). In fact, researchers have demonstrated that sometimes simply removing threatening stimuli and providing an individual with a safe environment has enabled spontaneous retrieval of memory,( e.g. Kennedy and Neville, 1957 ). Barbiturates can be used to pharmacologically facilitate the interviewing process. Most commonly used are sodium amobarbital and sodium pentobarbital. No studies have empirically investigated the effectiveness of hypnosis in treating Dissociative Amnesia. However, hypnosis has been used successfully in the recovery of dissociated and repressed memories, ( Maldonado et al. 2002. ) Once the amnesia has been reversed, it is important to explore and identify events that trigger the dissociative amnesia. The therapist should reinforce the use of effective coping mechanisms and the client’s failure to use dissociation as their primary coping strategy ( Maldonado, et al., 2002 ). Kennedy, R.B. and Neville J., ( 1957 ). Sudden loss of memory..

What is the Goal of Therapy?

Help the child resolve conflicting feelings, wishes, loyalties, identifications, or contrasting expectations.

The child may perceive these as conflicts between internal voices, imaginary friends, or conflicting identities. The therapist helps the child find ways to express these conflicts directly, examine both sides of the conflict, and problem-solve towards integrative solutions of a fragmented sense of identity.  ISSTD, Child and Adolescent Treatment Guidelines, Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents ( 2003 ).

Treatments for dissociative amnesia related to abuse, traumas include psychodynamic or cognitive therapy, group therapy, expressive therapy, family therapy, psychoeducation, and hospitalization. The empowerment model encourages the highest level of functioning after treatment ( Turkus, 1992;  Fouche, et al., 2008 ).

The apparent triggering nature of trauma and dissociation-related symptoms highlight the need for grounding and containment skills to be an essential focus of treatment for dissociative individuals who self-injure. Further, safety and stabilization accompanied by working towards internal cooperation between dissociative self-states may enhance one’s ability to better manage triggers and regulate internal experiences, therefore decreasing self-injury. The reasons dissociative disorder patients self-injure (Nestor, M. et al., 2022 ).

Application of treatment approaches for adult dissociation to children may be potentially dangerous to children ( Silberg, J. L., 2000 ). Fifteen years of dissociation in maltreated children, where do we go from here?

Many contemporary trauma scholars believe that the loss of integration involved in the dissociative state should include, in addition to the state of consciousness, the sense of self-behavior, emotional and impulse control, sensor experiences, body scheme and image, ability to consider the person’s own mental states and those of others, consistency in representations of self and other people, and autobiographic narratives ( Van der Kolk, 1996; Nijenhuis et al, 1998, 2003; Mears, 1999; Vander Hart et al 2006; Vander Hart & Dorahy, 2006; Hart et al., 2006, Carlson et al., 2009 ).

Post-Traumatic Growth and Identification with Abuser

In identification with abuser, this type of identification is assumed to be an automatic reaction that has advantageous effects in terms of promoting survival during the abuse ( Frankel, 2002 ). Its often becomes entrenched in victims mentality and ciontinues to exist long after the abuse has ended ( Lahav, 2021b; Lahav, Tallman and Ginsberg, 2019. ) Thus, adult survivors of childhood abuse might view their traumatic past from their perpetrator’s perspectives and not only deny and minimize the abuse but also attribute it to beneficial aspects as reflected in reports of post-traumatic growth ( Lahav, Seligman, et al.,  2017 ).

 

Positive associations were found between PTG, dissociation, and IWA. The higher the levels of PTG, the higher the levels of dissociation and IWA. Several explanations might be offered for the present findings. It might be that childhood abuse survivors’ reports of PTG reflect efforts to rely on positive appraisals as a way to cope with their current difficulties. Childhood abuse survivors who suffer from elevated dissociation and pathological attachment to their perpetrators might attribute to their past abuse beneficial effects in order to better handle their current plight. Previous evidence suggesting that views regarding personal enhancement might be illusory and reflect efforts to cope with threatening events. McFarland and Alvaro ( 2000 ), provide some support for this explanation.

 

Lastly, the positive relationship between PTG dissociation and IWA may reflect the involvement of dissociative mechanisms in some reports of PTG and their link to the affiliated bonds between victims and their perpetrators ( Lahav Bellin et al. 2016;

Lahav Seligman et al. 2017 ).

 

Children who were subjected to emotional, physical, or sexual abuse undergo a betrayal at the hands of those who were meant to protect them and upon whom they are dependent ( Freyd 1996 ). Resisting the perpetrator is therefore counterproductive and dangerous ( Freyd 1996 ). Instead, mechanisms that enable abused children to block out emotional pain and bond with their perpetrators are automatically activated ( Frankel 2002, 2018 ) leading to the formation of dissociated disintegrated belief systems.

 

Negative views which are linked to traumatic material and emotions such as fear, anger and repulsion exist in a disconnected manner alongside beliefs regarding the benefits of the abuse which mirror the perpetrator’s perspective ( Lahav, Belin et al. 2016; Lahav, Seligman et al. 2017 ). The latter might be manifested in reports of PTG that continue to exist long after the abuse has ended. Eliar and Lahav, 2023.

 

It could be that distinct profiles reflect the degree to which defensive mechanisms are involved in reports of PTG, with the high profile representing PTG that is more likely to be dissociation-driven and related to survivors identifying with the perpetrators compared to the other two profiles. Although these dissociation-based PTG beliefs might provide relief during the abuse, they might be counterproductive after the abuse has ended. Similar to other byproducts of dissociation, these beliefs might impede survivors’ ability to work through their abuse, intensify their avoidance tendencies, and even increase their risk for re-victimization ( Lava, Bellin et al. 2016; Lahav Ginsberg et al. 2020 ). Hence, survivors who hold such beliefs might suffer from elevated levels of psychopathology as manifested in the present study in higher levels of PTSD and anxiety symptoms.

 

A central tool of motivated forgetting is retrieval suppression, a process whereby people shut down episodic retrieval to control awareness. We review behavioral, neurobiological, and clinical research and show that retrieval suppression leads us to forget suppressed experiences. This work provides a foundation for understanding how motivational forces influence what we remember of life experience. Some of the forgetting that human beings experience may not be accidental, but rather may be produced by the desire to forget unpleasant events in life. More specifically, the forgetting and later recovery of memories of child abuse.

 

Do such experiences reflect motivated forgetting?  If so, how might this have been accomplished?

 

These are some of the key questions that drive the recovered memory debate. People would be unhappy if they didn’t have a way of forgetting the day-to-day unpleasantness of life. On this level, motivated forgetting is obvious and adaptive. On the other hand, intuitions diverge about whether unusual and disturbing experiences can be forgotten. It is difficult for the average person to imagine how something like child sexual abuse, could be forgotten. Our instinct is, if that happened to me, I’d remember it.

 

Could a person motivated to forget capitalize on retrieval-induced forgetting? And does any pattern of data in the clinical literature fit such a mechanism?

 

In considering this question, we came across an intriguing and counterintuitive finding reported in Jennifer Freyd’s (1996 ) book, Betrayal Trauma Theory: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse, Freyd argues that amnesia for sexual abuse,  may often reflect adaptive responses of a child who has been abused by a trusted caregiver. Freyd, J.J., ( 1996 ), Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse.

 

Although some survivors might experience positive transformations, other survivors’ reports of PTG may stem from dissociative mechanisms that are aimed to block out traumatic material and reflect the formation of a maladaptive, disintegrated belief system ( Lahav, Bellin, et al., 2016 ). Furthermore, under conditions of recurrent relational abuse, such as childhood abuse, these dissociation-based beliefs of PTG might be associated with the unique bonds often formed between victims and their perpetrators, known as identification with the aggressor ( Lahav, Talmon and Ginsberg, 2019 ).

Identification with the Aggressor

Identification with aggressor ( IWA ) is a concept which was originally developed by Ferenczi, (1932-1933 ), it is a mechanism that aims to promote abuse victim survival by the fusing with, taking on, and interjecting their perpetrator’s experience. Although this defensive reaction has an interpersonal function as it enables the victim to preserve a positive relationship with the perpetrator, it is not limited to childhood abuse inflicted by a parental figure ( Lahav, 2021a, 2022;  Lahav, Talmon and Ginsberg, 2019 ). in fact, IWA may develop as a result of power asymmetry between the victim and perpetrator when the victim cannot escape, avoid or prevent the attacks. Franco, ( 2002 ).

Child Abuse

Some survivors report positive transformations in the aftermath of their trauma known as post-traumatic growth, PTG. Yet the experience of PTG reports is questionable, and some scholars claim that it may reflect maladaptive illusory qualities. Furthermore, according to a recent theoretical model, PTG might be dissociation with their perpetrators. These findings suggest that whereas some childhood abuse survivors might experience a positive transformation subsequent to their trauma, other PTG reports might reflect dissociative mechanisms and pathological attachments to their perpetrators and thus might be maladaptive. Post-traumatic growth dissociation and identification with the aggressor among childhood abuse survivors (  Eliar and Lahan, 2023 ).

Prognosis and Treatment – Length and Course of Treatment

Most child and adolescent cases of severe dissociation are not as difficult and lengthly as adult cases. It is appropriate to maintain an open-minded and hopeful stance about the possibility of rapid treatment, even for the most severe presentation, as this has occurred in many cases ( Kluft, 1984, 1985. Peterson, 1996. Silberg and Walters, 1998 ).

Predictors of Course

In predicting the course of patients with trauma-related dissociative and personality disorders, we showed that gender was the only significant predictor indicating that women improved significantly more than men. The course of comorbid trauma-related dissociative and personality disorders, two-year follow-up of the Friesland study chort, Swart S. et al., ( 2020 ).

Prognosis for Dissociative Amnesia

Sometimes memories return quickly, as can happen when patients are taken out of a traumatic or stressful situation, e.g. combat. In other cases, amnesia, particularly in patients with dissociative fugue, persists for a long time. The capacity for disassociation may decrease with age. Most patients recover their missing memories and amnesia resolves. However, some are never able to reconstruct their missing past. The prognosis is determined mainly by the following. The patient’s life circumstances, particularly stresses and conflicts associated with the amnesia, and the patient’s overall mental adjustment.

Dissociative Identity Disorder: Childhood Trauma.

DID is conceptualized as a childhood onset post-traumatic developmental disorder. Every study that has examined the question of early life trauma and DID has found the highest rates of childhood adversity primarily beginning before the age of six. In the histories of DID, individuals compared with any other diagnostic group. DID patients have a pattern of comorbid disorders and behaviors consistent with other severely traumatized populations. In clinical studies, 79% to 100% of DID patients met diagnostic criteria for comorbid PTSD, 83% to 96% for comorbid depression, and 83% to 96% had a history of current or past substance abuse. 92% to 100% of DID patients endorsed current or past suicidal ideation. 60% to 80% reported a history of suicide attempts. 78% reported non-suicidal self-destructive behavior.

 

Across studies, DID patients spent an average of 5 to 12.4 years in the mental health system before a correct diagnosis, receiving an average of 3 to 4 incorrect diagnoses.

Diagnosis of DID in the DSM-5

Diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder is clinical based on presence of the following criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th edition, DSM-5. Patients have two personality states or identities, disruption of identity with substantial discontinuity in their sense of self and sense of agency. Patients have gaps in their memory for everyday events, important personal information and traumatic events, information that would not typically be lost with ordinary forgetting. Symptoms cause significant distress or significantly impair social or occupational functioning. Also, the symptoms cannot be better accounted for by another disorder, e.g. complex partial seizures, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, another dissociative disorder, by the effects of alcohol intoxication, by broadly accepted cultural or religious practices, or in children, by fantasy play, e.g. an imaginary friend. Dissociative Identity Disorder Diagnostic Criteria

 

Disruption of identity characterized by two or more distinct personality states, which may be described in some cultures as an experience of possession. The disruption in identity involves marked discontinuity in sense of self and sense of agency, accompanied by related alterations in affect, behavior, consciousness, memory, perception, cognition, and or sensory motor functioning. These signs and symptoms may be observed by others or reported by the individual. Recurrent gaps in the recall of everyday events, important personal information, and or traumatic events that are inconsistent with ordinary forgetting.The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. The disturbance is not a normal part of a broadly accepted cultural or religious practice. Note, in children the symptoms are not better explained by imaginary playmates or other fantasy play. The symptoms are not attributable to the physiological effects of a substance, e.g. blackouts or chaotic behavior during alcohol intoxication or another medical condition,  ( e.g. complex partial seizures ).

What Causes Dissociative Identity Disorder?

Certain people are more vulnerable to getting DID. A child who is disconnected from adult caregivers. Younger children as they have not yet had the opportunity to develop a stable sense of self or personality. People who are easily hypnotizable ( i.e. prone to go into trance ).

The Following Steps Can Lead to DID

A vulnerable person experiences stressful experiences such as abuse or trauma over and over again. Faced with trauma, the person spaces out or dissociates as a survival strategy in order to cope with the trauma. One part of the person’s self becomes the part that endures the trauma, whereas another part exists afterwards.

DID: There are Two Types

Dissociative identity disorder has the following forms. Possession and non-possession.

 

In such cases the different identities are very overt, readily noticed by others. The Possession form that occurs in dissociative identity disorder differs in that the alternative identity is unwanted and occurs involuntarily. It causes substantial distress and impairment and it manifests in times and places that violate cultural and or religious norms.

 

Non-possession forms tend to be less overt. People may feel a sudden alteration in their sense of self or identity, perhaps feeling as though they were observers of their own speech, emotions, and actions rather than the agent. Many also have recurrent dissociative amnesia. How overt the different identities are varies. They tend to be more overt when people are under extreme stress. The fragmentation of identity usually leads to asymmetric amnesia in which what is known by one identity may or may not be known by another, i.e. one identity may have amnesia for events experienced by other identities. Some identities appear to know and interact with others in an elaborate inner world and some identities interact more than others.

 

In the non possession form, the different identities are often not as apparent to observers. Instead, patients experience feelings of depersonalization, i.e., they feel unreal, removed from self, and detached from their physical and mental processes. Patients say that they feel like an observer of their life, as if they were watching themselves in a movie over which they have no control, loss of personal agency. They may think that their body feels different,( e.g., like that of a small child or someone of

the opposite sex and does not belong to them ). They may have sudden thoughts, impulses and emotions that do not seem to belong to them and that may manifest as multiple confusing thought streams or as voices. Some manifestations may be noticed by others. For example, patience, attitudes, opinions and preferences, e.g. regarding food, clothing or interests, may suddenly change then change back.

How Might DID Present in the Therapeutic Setting?

The overtness or covertness of these personality states varies as a function of psychological motivation, current level of stress, cultural context, internal conflicts and dynamics, and emotional resilience among other factors. Sustained periods of identity confusion, alteration may occur when psychosocial pressures are severe and or prolonged. Most individuals with non-possession form dissociative identity disorder do not overtly display or only subtly display the discontinuity of identity. Only a minority present to clinical attention with discernible alteration of identities. The elaboration of dissociative personality states with different names, wardrobes, hairstyles, handwriting, accents and so forth occurs in only a minority of individuals. American Psychiatric Association, ( 2022 ).

From, “ Dissociative Parental Alignment, “ Miller A. (1999 ), comes the following excerpt :

“ Walden and Jonas described the following behaviors on the part of the child.

  1. Contradictions The child’s own statements are contradictory or they contradict factual history or the perceptions of unbiased individuals.
  2. Child has inappropriate and unnecessary information e.g. my dad had an affair while my mom was in a hospital having me or; my mom wanted me aborted.
  3. Child engages in character assault including the use of globally negative descriptions for which the child has trouble coming up with specifics sufficient to justify them.
  4. Collusion and one-sided alliance with the alienating parent. This is often given away by the use of blended pronouns e.g. when my dad left us or we don’t have enough money to live on.
  5. Child-parents themes of the alienating parent even using the same words. The child’s identity becomes enmeshed with that of the alienating parent.
  6. The child reports on the target parent, even to professionals, the way a spy would.
  7. The child displays a sense of urgency and fragility. Everything seems to have life and death importance, e.g. if you make me have dinner with him, I’ll run away or kill myself.
  8. The child’s affiliations with the target parents associates and family change.
  9. Splitting. The child cannot come up with any positives about the target parent nor with any negatives about the alienating parent.
  10. Marked absence of complex thinking about relationships and simplistic characterizations of the parent e.g. my mom is the homebody and my dad is the entertainer.
  11. child demonstrates a feeling of restriction in permission to love or be loved.What do these symptoms sound like? An incomplete person, much like a young alter personality of a DID individual. Children in any case have difficulty holding on to both or all sides of complexities in their environment. This extreme pressure leads to letting go, at least temporarily, of one or more aspects of the complexity. When working with young alter personalities and DIDs, I have to constantly orient them to present reality. They tend to believe their present situation is, as their past was, extremely dangerous. They expect people to abuse them. This is based on very flimsy evidence about the present, often without even knowledge of what happened in the past. The protective parts tend to be angry and hateful with minimal provocation and to interpret small things as evidence that someone is out to harm them. The pain holder parts tend to be easily afraid or hurt and their reactions trigger their protective parts to anger. None of these parts believe it is possible to be cared for. “

Classic Symptoms of Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociation is a mental process where individuals are not fully connected with their thoughts, feelings, behaviors, or memories. Switching to different alters, which are alternate identities or personality states, it can feel like you have different persons living in your head. There is usually a main part or host along with at least one other part. Amnesia, loss of time or blackouts, whereby the person can’t remember periods of time or even portions of their childhood. Each identity can have its own name and unique differences in voice, gender, mannerisms.

 

Some identities may even require different prescription glasses. At least two of these identities or personality states recurrently take control of the person’s behavior, distress or troubles functioning due to having the condition. Other symptoms include Derealization, which is the feeling that the world is not real or in a haze. Depersonalization is the feeling of being detached from your body as an out-of-body experience. Switching to different alters, which may appear as sudden changes in mood, behavior, or personality.

Amnesia in Dissociative Identity Disorder

The amnesia typically associated with dissociative identity disorder is asymmetrical with different identity states remembering different aspects of autobiographical information. There is usually a host personality who identifies with the client’s real name. Typically the host personality is not aware of the presence of other alters. ( American Psychiatric Association 2000; Fine 1999; Frey 2001; Kluft 1999; Steinberg and Spitzer, 1988; Maldonado et al., 2002; Spiegel and Cardina, 1999; Steinberg et al., 1993 ).

 

The different personalities may serve distinct roles in coping with problem areas. An average of two to four personality alters are present at diagnosis with an average of 13 to 15 personalities emerging over the course of treatment ( Coons, Bowman, and Milstein, 1988; Maldonado et al., 2002 ). Environmental events usually trigger a sudden shift from one personality to another ( Maldonado et al., 2002 ).

Auditory and Visual Hallucinations

The presence of voices and images of floating objects, faces, figures or shadows are frequently characteristic of children with DDNOS or DID. These hallucinations originate from traumatic experiences and are indicators of fragmentation. Once children understand that their frightening voices or images were originally formed to help them survive, their fear and resistance to disclose them is lessened.

DID and Genetic Predisposition

The vast majority, as many as 98 to 99% of individuals who develop DID, have documented histories of repetitive, overwhelming, and sometimes life-threatening trauma at a sensitive developmental stage of childhood, usually before the age of nine, and they may possess an inherited biological predisposition for dissociation. Giller E. ( 2018 ).

 

People with DID can hold highly responsible jobs and contribute to society in a variety

of professional, artistic, and service-oriented ways. To family members, co-workers and neighbors with whom they interact daily, they apparently function normally. The effects of dissociative disorders on children of trauma survivors, Giller E. ( 2018 ).

 

Studies comparing the validity of the DID diagnosis to that of other psychiatric disorders across the three major validity paradigms for psychiatric disorders found that DID satisfies virtually all of the criteria for inclusion and none for exclusion from the current DSM diagnostic system. Dahlenberg CJ, Brand BL, Gleaves DH et al. Evaluation of the evidence of the trauma and fantasy models of dissociation ( 2012 ).

 

Dissociative Identity Disorder

Treatment of dissociative identity disorder typically includes the following components.  A strong therapeutic relationship, a safe therapeutic environment, appropriate boundaries, development of no self or other harm contracts, an understanding of the personality structures, working through traumatic and dissociative material, the development of more mature psychological defences and the integration of states of self. Guidelines for treatment of adults and children are available from the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, www.isst-d.org. Taumatic memories is an essential aspect of treatment ( Fine 1999; Kluft 1999; Lazrove and Fine 1996; Maldonado et al. 2002 ). Hypnosis can aid in allowing the client to gain control over the dissociative episodes and the integration of memories ( Fine and Berkowitz 2001; Maldonado et al., 2002 ).

 

Treatment of dissociative identity disorder is typically long and challenging. Spontaneous remission will not occur ( Kluft, 1985b, 1999 ). Studies have shown that cognitive behavioral treatment of dissociative identity disorder can be beneficial

( Fine, 1999; Maldonado et al. 2002 ). Electroconvulsive therapy, ECT, is not generally recommended. Maldonado et al. 2002. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, EMDR, can be used in the treatment of DID, although it needs to be implemented with great caution ( Fine and Berkowitz, 2001 ). EMDR is a newer psychological treatment designed to accelerate the processing of information and to facilitate integration of fragmented trauma memories ( Fine and Berkowitz 2001;

Lazrove and Fine 1996 ).

Depersonalization-Derealization Disorder

Depersonalization-Derealization Disorder is a type of dissociative disorder that consists of persistent or recurrent feelings of being detached, dissociated from one’s body or mental processes usually with the feeling of being an outside observer of one’s life, depersonalization, or of being detached from one’s surroundings ( derealization ). The disorder is often triggered by severe stress. Diagnosis is based on symptoms after other possible causes are ruled out. Treatment consists of psychotherapy plus drug therapy for any comorbid depression and or anxiety.

 

Depersonalization or derealization occurs independently of other mental or physical disorders, is persistent or recurrent, and impairs functioning, depersonalization/ derealization disorder is present.

Clinical Criteria

 Diagnosis of depersonalization, derealization disorder is clinical based on the presence of the following criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th edition, DSM-5. Patients with persistent or recurrent episodes of depersonalization, derealization, or both. Patients know that their dissociative experiences are not real, i.e., they have an intact sense of reality. Symptoms cause significant distress or significantly impair social or occupational functioning. Also, the symptoms cannot be better accounted for by another medical or psychiatric disorder, e.g. seizures, ongoing substance abuse, panic disorder, major depressive disorder, another dissociative disorder.

 

Depersonalization, derealization, or both. Depersonalization, experiences of unreality, detachment, or being an outside observer with respect to one’s thoughts, feelings, sensations, body, or actions, e.g. perceptual alterations, distorted sense of time, unreal or absent self-emotion and or physical numbing.

 

Derealization. Experiences of unreality or detachment with respect to surroundings,

e.g. individuals or objects are experienced as unreal, dreamlike, foggy, lifeless, or visually distorted. During the depersonalization or derealization experiences, reality testing remains intact. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. The disturbance is not attributable to the physiological effects of a substance, e.g. a drug of abuse, medication, or another medical condition, e.g. seizures. The disturbance is not better explained by another mental disorder, such as schizophrenia, panic disorder, major depressive disorder, acute stress disorder or another dissociative disorder.

 

Derealization. Derealization involves a sense of unreality or unfamiliarity with one’s environment and distortions of space and time Steinberg, (1995 ).  Depersonalization and Derealization ( Steele, Dorahy, Van der Hart and Niijenhuis, 2009 ), eloquently described depersonalization as

 

  1. the existence of an observing and experiencing ego or part of the personality ( Fromm 1965 ).
  2. detachment of consciousness from the self or body i.e. feelings of strangeness or unfamiliarity with self out of body experiences.
  3. detachment from aspects such as numbness
  4. a sense of unreality such as being in a dream, and
  5. perceptual alterations or hallucinations regarding the body  ( Noyes & Kletti, 1997 ).

Other Specified Dissociative Disorder

This category applies to presentations in which symptoms characteristic of a dissociative disorder that cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of function, predominate but do not meet the full criteria for any of the disorders in the dissociative disorders diagnostic class. The other specified dissociative disorder category is used in situations in which the clinician chooses to communicate the specific reason that the presentation does not meet the criteria for any specific dissociative disorder. This is done by recording other specific dissociative disorder followed by the specific reason ( e.g. dissociative trance ).

 

Examples of presentations that can be specified using the other specified designation include the following:

 

1. chronic and recurrent syndromes of mixed dissociative symptoms. This category includes identity disturbance associated with less than marked discontinuities in sense of self and agency or alterations of identity or episodes of possession in an individual who reports no dissociative amnesia due to prolonged and intense coercive persuasion.

  1. Individuals who have been subjected to intense coercive persuasion ( e.g. brainwashing, thought reform, indoctrination while captive, torture, long-term political imprisonment, recruitment by sex cults or by terror organizations, may present with prolonged changes in or conscious questioning of their identity )
  2. acute dissociative reactions to stressful events. This category is for acute transient conditions that typically last less than a month, less than three months, and sometimes only a few hours or days. These conditions are characterized by constriction of consciousness, depersonalization, derealization, perceptual disturbances, e.g. analgesia, paralysis.
  3. Dissociative trance. This condition is characterized by an acute narrowing or complete loss of awareness of immediate surroundings that manifests as profound unresponsiveness, may be accompanied by minor stereotype behaviors,( e.g. finger movements ), of which the individual is unaware and or that he or she cannot control, as well as transient paralysis or loss of consciousness.

 

As with DID, a therapist will likely take quite some time to make this diagnosis,

carefully listening to your symptoms and observing you in assessment, there are

four different categories used for OSDD. These can also be called subtypes or specifiers.

 

The four categories are: One, having chronic dissociative symptoms such as identity alteration, but the alteration and separation between identities is not as severe as in DID. There may be identity disturbance, but not the presence of clearly separated parts or amnesia. Two, having identity disturbance due to a long period of intense coercive control and persuasion. This includes the type of brainwashing or control that can occur in cults during political imprisonment or during torture. In such cases, people may begin to be confused about or question their identity. Three, having acute dissociative reactions to stressful events. These typically last less than a month and can last for hours or days at a time. These reactions can include depersonalization, small periods of amnesia, and changes in sensory motor functioning. Four, experiencing dissociative trance.

 

The person experiences periods of time where they lose awareness of the outer world and become unresponsive. This is not something the person may have temporary paralysis or loss of consciousness. A diagnosis is only made when this trance occurs, outside of religious, cultural practice, and when not under the influence of drugs. In some parts of the world, this might be diagnosed as trance disorder. this might be diagnosed as trance disorder.

Dissociative disorders – Definitions

In 1980, the DSM-III added the diagnosis of PTSD with psychogenic amnesia as a criterion symptom, discarded the term hysteria, and created diagnostic categories for somatoform and dissociative disorders. After the publication of the DSM-IV, the terms psychogenic amnesia and psychogenic fugue were replaced by dissociative amnesia, DA, and dissociative fugue, DF, respectively. Multiple personality disorder, MPD, was replaced by dissociative identity disorder, DID.

 

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5th Edition, DSM-5, defines dissociation as a disruption, interruption, and or discontinuity of the normal subjective integration of behavior, memory, identity, representation and motor control and behavior.

The 5 DSM-5 Dissociative Disorders:

Dissociative Identity Disorder, DID

Dissociative Amnesia, DA

Depersonalization Derealization Disorder, DPDRD

Other Specified Dissociative Disorders, OSDD

Unspecified Dissociative Disorder, UDD.

 

In DSM-5, Dissociative Fugue, DF, is now a subtype of Dissociative Amnesia, DA, and not a separate disorder.

 

Dissociation is described as the involuntary disruption or discontinuity in the normal integration of one or more of the following identity, sensations, perceptions, affects, thoughts, memories, control over bodily movements or behavior. World Health Organization ( 2018 ).

 

 

Dissociative symptoms can potentially disrupt every area of psychological functioning. American Psychiatric Association, ( 2013 ).

 

Cardena and Carlson, ( 2011 ), provided a concise definition for dissociation. An experienced loss of information or control. Symptoms are characterized by a loss of continuity and subjective experience with accompanying involuntary and unwanted intrusions into awareness and behavior, so-called positive dissociation, and or an inability to access information or control mental functions or behaviors manifested as symptoms such as gaps in awareness, memory, or self-identification that are normally amenable to such areas control, so-called negative dissociation, and or a sense of experimental disconnectedness that may include perceptual distortions about the self or the environment.

 

The DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for PTSD now include a dissociative subtype PTSD-DS. Dissociative amnesia as a symptom is a diagnostic criterion for both DID and for PTSD. PTSD-DS are that reminders of the PTSD criterion A, traumatic stressor, lead to depersonalization, derealization symptoms. In DSM-5, the DD section is specifically placed after the trauma and stressor related disorders to show their relationship to traumatic experiences. causes of dissociation.

 

There is no consensus yet on the exact etiological pathway for the development of dissociative symptomatology, but newer theoretical models stress impaired parent-child attachment patterns ( Barach 1991; Liotti, 1999; Ogawa, Sroufe, Weinfeld, Carlson and Egeland, 1997 ) and trauma-based disruptions in the development of self-regulation of state transitions ( Putnam 1997; Siegel 1999 ). Newer theorizing ties maladaptive

attachment patterns directly to dysfunctional brain development that may

inhibit integrative connections in the developing child’s brain ( Schore, 2001; Stein and Kendall, 2003 ).

 

Scientists have recently been studying specific brain structures and functions that are related to dissociation. So far, they have found that during dissociation, structures in the memory regions deep in your brain show rhythmic activity, but seem disconnected from other regions responsible for thought and planning. Cleveland Clinic.

Dissociation’s Neurobiology: Evidence of Brain Disconnections

From a neurophysiologic perspective, mental states may be viewed as arising from synchronized integration of the activity of functionally specialized brain regions. Functional neuroimaging of dissociation supports an understanding of these symptoms as disconnection syndromes.

Functional Neuroimaging

Different identities, sometimes called a traumatic personality state and neutral personality state, demonstrate different patterns of cerebral blood flow, subjective reports, and peripheral physiologic parameters, blood pressure, heart rate. Functional imaging of traumatic dissociation shows active suppression of limbic regions, amygdala, and increased activity in dorsolateral prefrontal areas. Similarly, neuroimaging of depersonalization disorders show increased neural activity in prefrontal regions associated with affect regulation and decreased activity in emotional related areas.

Speed

Responses occur extremely rapidly. Using EEG, which allows finer temporal resolution than functional imaging studies, Kirino et al. showed reversible attenuation of a specific EEG signal within 300 MSEC during dissociative episodes. This ultra-rapid neural reflex was correlated with allocation of attentional and working memory resources, perhaps with the goal of minimizing memory activation and resurgence of affect-laden memories.

Hormonal

Stress-related disorders cause perturbances in neural hormonal function. Simeon et al. found a distinct pattern of stress-induced HPA axis dysregulation in dissociated patients compared with PTSD patients and healthy controls. Similar results were seen in patients with borderline personality disorder and dissociative symptoms.

Structural Imaging

Stress-related neurohormonal perturbations are known to affect critical neural structures, including the hippocampus. Using MRI, Vermetten et al. found significantly decreased amygdala and hippocampal volumes in patients with dissociative identity disorder. Dissociative disorders unclear? Think rainbows from pain blows, McDonald K. ( 2008 ).

What is the Cause of Dissociation and Dissociative Disorders

Research tends to show that dissociation stems from a combination of environmental and biological factors. The likelihood that a tendency to dissociate is inherited genetically is estimated to be zero. Simeon et al. ( 2001 ). Most commonly, repetitive childhood physical and or sexual abuse and other forms of trauma are associated with the development of dissociative disorders, ( e.g. Putnam, 1985 ).

 

In the context of chronic severe childhood trauma, dissociation can be considered adaptive because it reduces the overwhelming distress created by trauma. However, if dissociation continues to be used in adulthood when the original danger no longer exists, it can be maladaptive. The dissociative adult may automatically disconnect from situations that are perceived as dangerous or threatening without taking time to determine whether there is any real danger. This leaves the person spaced out in many situations in ordinary life and unable to protect themselves in conditions of real danger.

 

 

Dissociation may also occur when there has been severe neglect or emotional abuse, even when there has been no overt physical or sexual abuse ( Anderson and Alexander 1996, West; Adam, Spreng and Rose 2001 ). Children may also become dissociative in families in which the parents are frightening, unpredictable, are dissociative themselves or make highly contradictory communications ( Blizzard 2001; Liotti, 1992, 1999a, 1999b ).

 

A parent who accuses his spouse or ex-spouse of being a horrible person and or abusing the child may be just describing reality or may be caught in a self-reinforcing cycle of fear and anger without the opportunity to disconfirm his or her perceptions. Various psychological motivations come together to keep this cycle going. 1. Anger and vengefulness. 2. Fear that his or her own trauma history will be repeated on the child. 3. Projecting his or her own abusiveness onto the partner. 4. Unmet childhood needs which causes parents to need the child as a totally supportive partner or parent. Miller Allison, Dissociated Parental Alignment, (1999 ).

 

When a parent is intermittently abusive either to the partner or to the child, the child is likely to develop dissociative states. In my article, The Dissociative Dance of Spouse Abuse, published in Treating Abuse Today in 1998, I describe the dissociative interactions between the spouse abuser and his or her partner ( Miller, A. 1998 ).

 

Even though the child’s own eyes and ears tell him otherwise, the child also has to keep the secret of what it is like at home. This is a prime breeding ground for dissociation or

At least of the development of fairly separate ego states  ( Miller, A, 1999 ).

 

Nijenhuis, Van der Hart, O. and Steele point to the theory of trauma-related structural dissociation of the personality, “ The traumatic event is not integrated into the memory

in the usual way and aspects of the personality that are associate with the trauma are cut off from consciousness. It is then as if the person alternates between two selves:

an apparently normal personality, which functions as if the trauma never occurred, and an emotional personality, which functions as if under continuous threat. ” ( Nijenhuis,

E, van der Hart, O., Steele, K. 2010 ). Trauma-related structural dissociation of the personality.

 

When faced with overwhelming traumatic situations from which there is no physical escape, a child may resolve to going away in his or her head. This ability is typically used by children as an extremely effective defence against acute physical and emotional pain or anxious anticipation of that pain. By this dissociative process thoughts, feelings, memories, and perceptions of the traumatic experiences can be separated off psychologically, allowing the child to function as if the trauma had not occurred. Giller, E. ( 2018 ). Longitudinal studies demonstrate disorganized and attachment predicts dissociation and dissociative disorders ( Kate, Maryann, 2022 ).

 

Early loss of a close member can be traumatic and can overwhelm the coping responses of a child that can interfere with his self-regulation mechanisms ( S. Goodman, depression and early adverse experiences in handbook of depression,

2002 ).

 

Research indicates very young children are more prone to dissociate because they don’t have the coping mechanisms to handle fearful or stressful situations independently ( Solomon and George, Eds, 1999; Perry, 2001; Lyons-Ruth K., 2003; Lyons-Ruth et al., 2004; Agarwal et al., 1997; Carlson, 1989. 1989 ).

 

A variety of factors predict a relationship to amnesia for trauma interpersonal trauma, early life trauma close personal relationship with the perpetrator, violence of the trauma repeated trauma sexual trauma, and level of betrayal, particularly by a childhood caregiver all have been associated with later dissociative amnesia dissociation debates. Everything you know is wrong. Lowenstein R. ( 2018 ).

 

Fouche, et al. ( 2008 ) found individuals from a lower socioeconomic status are more likely to dissociate.

Psychobiology of Dissociation

A number of lines of evidence support conceptualizing dissociation as the human equivalent of the animal freeze or feigning death protective response in the face of life-threatening danger where fight, flight has failed or would be more dangerous. Autonomic changes may include a decrease or no change in blood pressure, heart rate, heart rate variability, lowered skin conductance, and decrease in skeletal muscle tone. The polyvagal theory of Stephen Porges posits that as fight-flight sympathetic stress responses fail, dominance by the primitive vagal parasympathetic system results leading to the freeze response. This may result in a shutdown state characterized by dense trance, increase in pain threshold and stupor, even to the extent of catatonic-like non-responding ( Elbert T. Schauer, M. Dissociation Following Traumatic Stress, Porges, S.W. 2010 ).

 

Studies in clinical and non-clinical populations have identified neural network patterns associated with dissociative amnesia, D.A., and dissociative fugue, D.F., that involve top-down inhibition by frontal systems of hippocampal, temporal, and occipital lobe areas involved in autobiographic memory. Lowenstein R. ( 2018 ).

 

In an MRI study, women with DID had significantly reduced hippocampal and amygdala volumes compared to healthy controls. Many studies have shown a relationship to trauma and reduced hippocampal volume, especially to chronic trauma, thought to be related to the impact on the hippocampus of repeated release of glucocorticoids. Loewenstein, R., ( 2018 ).

Studies of amygdala volume in maltreated children and adults with a history of childhood adversity show that early cumulative trauma as reported by most DID patients predicts stress-related reduction in amygdala volumes hypothesized as also due to the impact of repeated glucocorticoid release.

 

Higher dissociation scores were associated with poorer performance and significantly correlated with lower cortisol levels. The cortisol dissociation finding supports the model that dissociation is related to decreased activation of the sympathetic stress system. Similar results were found in Norwegian naval cadets undergoing a POW simulation experience and soldiers undertaking the grueling combat diver qualification course ( Morgan C. A., Southwisk S. M., Hazlett G., Stefan G., Symptoms of Dissociation in Healthy Military Populations. 2007 ).

 

PTSD-DS subjects show patterns of increased brain activation of frontal systems, medial and or ventral prefrontal cortex, dorsal anterior cingulate, and decreased activation of amygdala and insula, they show a pattern of decreased or no change in blood pressure and heart rate associated with these neural network patterns. Similarly, in response to aversive stimuli, depersonalization, derealization disorder, patients demonstrate inhibition of limbic arousal by increased activation of frontal systems along with autonomic blunting.

Dissociative Disorders in Adulthood

The development of dissociative disorders in adulthood appears to be related to the intensity of dissociation during the traumatic experience increases the likelihood of generalization of such mechanisms following the events. The experience of ongoing trauma in childhood significantly increases the likelihood of developing dissociative disorders in adulthood. ISSTD, 2002; Kisiel & Lyons, 2001; Martinez-Tboas & Guillermo, 2000;  Nash, Hulsey, Sexton, Harrelson and Lambert 1993, Siegel 2003, Simeon et al. 2001, Simeon, Goralnik and Schmeidler 2001, Spiegel and Cardina

1991; see -Cleveland Clinic )

Genetic Studies

Genetic studies of dissociation suggest that there is a complex interplay between genetic factors and type, timing, and chronicity of trauma. Studies comparing child and adult cohorts of adoptive parents, fraternal and identical twins, suggest that genetics account for around 50% of the interindividual variants and dissociation symptoms, with non-shared stressful environmental experiences accounting for most of the additional variants. Studies have linked dissociation to the interaction or traumatic experiences with specific single nucleotide polymorphisms in genes related to the HBA axis, KFBP5, serotonergic  5-HTTLPR, Dopaminergic COMT and BDNF systems.

 

Gene by adversity interactions have been described for FKBP5, an endogenous regulator of the stress neuroendocrine system, conferring risk for a number of psychiatric disorders including major depressive disorder PTSD and for dissociation.

 

We find little support for the hypothesis that the dissociative trauma relationship is due to fantasy proneness or confabulated memories of trauma. Lowenstein, R., ( 2018 )

Emotional Dysregulation

DPDRD, is strongly related to a history of childhood emotional abuse, but not to physical or sexual abuse. Emotional abuse has been linked to adverse psychological outcomes, including higher dissociation scores in non-clinical general population samples. Emotion dysregulation was associated with heightened dissociative symptoms and greater endorsement of self-injury.

 

Trauma survivors with a history of self-injury report greater levels of emotion dysregulation than those without self-injury. Bedi, Muller, and Classen, 2014, and greater self-reported emotion dysregulation is associated with greater self-injury frequency ( Titelius et al. 2018 ).

 

The addition of engaging in self-injury rather than feeling emotions may further inhibit patients ability to regulate their emotions ( DePrince, AP and Freyd, JJ, 1999 ).

 

Cross-sectional and longitudinal studies have established a relationship between trauma history and general emotion dysregulation, including difficulty controlling emotions when distressed, difficulty concentrating or accomplishing tasks when experiencing unwanted emotions, and difficulty using adaptive forms of coping when upset ( Seligowski, Lee, Bardeen, and Orcutt, 2015 ).

 

It is recommended that clinicians examine emotion dysregulation when assessing for dissociation and self-injury risk, as heightened emotional dysregulation may indicate an increased risk for dissociative symptoms and or self-destructive behaviors. Dissociative disorder patients demonstrated remarkable difficulty regulating their emotions. In fact, dissociative disorder patients struggled with regulating their emotions more than other samples of individuals with PTSD symptoms, ( e.g. Radomski and Reed, 2016 ), and severe self-injury, ( e.g. Chan and Chun 2019 ), emphasizing  the  severity of emotion ( Chen, Chun, 2019 ). Emphasizing the severity of emotion dysregulation, DD patients experience.

Trauma and Parental Caregiving

The parents of these children need help to grasp that their individual and interactive use of their child as an object for their unconscious pathological needs is what delays or disrupts the child’s developing autonomy and can set into motion dissociative coping mechanisms that in its extreme form results in a fragmented sense of self. Unfortunately, many patients who put their children into this kind of a bind are unable or unwilling to see what they are doing. Dissociative Parental Alignment, Miller, A. ( 1999 ).

 

“ I think that in dismissing parental alienation syndrome because of Gardner, we are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Perhaps we need a new term, dissociative parental alignment. Very few of the cases I’ve seen have involved sexual abuse allegations. All of them have involved a parent who desperately needs the child to accept his or her extremely negative view of the other parent and a child who succumbs to the pressure from that parent to reject hate and fear the other parent. “ Miller A. ( 1999 ).

 

The repeated experience of dissociative detachment in childhood associated with the interaction with abusing caregivers ( or simply scared: see before ), may very seriously hamper the ability to integrate traumatic experiences and memories in a coherent representation of self and others.

 

Therefore, together with other pathogenetic mechanisms related to complex trauma, such as stress hormones hampering neurogenesis, synaptic plasticity, myelination, and neural and neural network development, ( DeBellis and Zisk, 2014; Teicher et al.,

2016.) Dissociative detachment generates failures in affect regulation, supported by the integration between the functions of the limbic system and those of the neural cortex, and leads to the fragmentation of mental activities, behavioral strategies, and autobiographic memories, as well as of the sense of self. Sense of Self ( Carlson et al. 2009; Liotti 2009; Schore, 2009; Teacher et al., 2010; Braun and Rock, 2011; Mears

2012 ).

 

Consistently several neuroscientific studies have partially demonstrated that dissociation relates to alterations of widely distributed cortical connectivity networks that underpin order integrative mental functions ( Hopper, et al., 2002; Lanius, et al., 2005; 2018; Wolf, et al., 2011;  Aikens, et al., 2017 ).

 

The role of attachment trauma and disintegrative pathogenesis, pathogenic processes in the traumatic dissociative dimension ( Farina B., 2019 ).

Cumulative developmental trauma, CDT, also known as early relational trauma due to the interpersonal nature of the traumatic experiences ( Isobel et al., 2017 ), refers to different types of stressful and traumatic events that occur repeatedly and cumulatively over a period of time, and within specific relationships and contexts SAR 2011, which are in most cases about 80% perpetrated by parents or other caregivers, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services 2017. For this reason, it has also been proposed as the expression attachment trauma ( Isobel et al. 2017 ). Dissociative symptoms in children have been associated with parental neglect ( Brunner, Parzer, Schold and Reich, 2000; Aguilar et al. 1997; Sanders and Gheolis 1991 ).

 

Dissociative symptoms in children have also been associated with parenting styles that are rejecting and inconsistent ( Mann and Saunders, 1994 ).

 

Other factors found associated in the backgrounds of children displaying dissociative symptoms include A. repetitive loss of attachment figures, B. chronic living instability, C. emotional abuse.

 

The combination of overprotection, overcontrol, intrusion presented as love and care, and emotional neglect, on the other hand, represents a double bind in the relationship with the caretaker. This is a kind of betrayal (Freyd 1994 ). A phenomenon which leads experiences to be traumatic by disrupting the subject’s perception of reality, Sarr et al. 2021. Overprotection, overcontrol is in fact a type of intrusion presented as normative, careful caretaking. Typically these parents are oppressive, restrictive, and prone to boundary violations

 

Different than the verbal emotional abuse, the relatively invisible quality of this type of emotional abuse creates both anger and guilt. Such interpersonal interference may have started very early ( Sar et al., 2021 )

 

If a parent responds in a frightening or contradictory manner, the child can neither approach the caregiver for comfort nor flee the very person on whom his life depends. The child’s limited cognitive and behavioral systems for maintaining attachment may break down, leading to dazing confusion and rapid alteration between approach and avoidance, these disorganized responses appear to activate the neurophysiological mechanism which involves dissociative adaptive response, i.e. staring, unresponsivity, hypalgesia, depersonalization, and derealization ( Perry 2001 ). This calls for

clinicians to be particularly heedful of dissociative indicators in infants and young children given their neurobiological capacity to dissociate when in the face of resisting threat.

 

Yet the significance of their responses often continues to be minimized or mis-

interpreted because professionals erroneously believe that this population, contrary to current research, isn’t affected by frightening and or unresponsive caretakers ( Waters F, 2005 ). When treatment fails with traumatized children

Dissociative Symptoms

DIS refers to unwanted intrusions into awareness and behavior with accompanying deficits in the continuity of subjective experiences, e.g. identity fragmentation, depersonalization, derealization or the inability to access information or control mental functions, e.g. amnesia, dysphonia, paralysis ( Spiegel D, Lewis Fernandez R, Lannis R, et al. 2013 ), dissociative disorders in DSM-5.

 

Dissociative psychopathology can manifest as amnesia, depersonalization, derealization or identity alterations and can be accompanied by positive,(  e.g. psychotic-like symptoms; Schiavone, McKinnon & Lanius, 2018 ) and negative ( e.g. somatosensory deficits ) symptoms ( Sar, 2014 ).

 

Young children from traumatic backgrounds may present with a variety of dissociative symptoms such as trans-like states, perplexing forgetfulness and behavioral and emotional fluctuations. In young children, fluctuating behavior may include unpredictable eruptions into tantrums of surprising intensity that appear out of context to what is going on around them. Although regressive behavior is frequently present, it may be hard to detect unless the child is assessed over time. Fagan J. McMahan, incipient multiple personality in children. Riley R. L. Mead J., Development of symptoms of multiple personality in a child of three, dissociation.

Trans Behavior and Trans States or Self States

Along the continuum of moderate to severe range of dissociation, children may stare off or zone out when they want to escape due to anxiety or traumatic reminders. With chronically abused children, trans behavior can become habitual even with mild stressors, which are often noted by teachers. During those times the children may have difficulty reporting what transpired just before they zoned out or what motivated such behavior. Sometimes because of embarrassment they will say that they were bored in school.

 

A more severe form of dissociation is the presence of self-states. Young children who have auditory or visual hallucinations of people may identify them as imaginary friends and not distinguish them as self-states until they are older and able to assimilate their meaning. These imaginary friends, however, may express intense affect and conflicts with each other ( Frost, Silberg and McIntee, 1996, and cause considerable distress to the child. I have treated a number of small children who have emphatically insisted that their imaginary friends or angry voice are real and not pretend.

 

Children can create self-states ages with different roles, affect, and behaviors that may directly relate to their traumatic experiences ( Waters and Silberg, 1998 ). They may be given names that describe their function and have special significance to the child’s mood, behavior, sensations, thoughts, and relationships. Some state selves who identify with the perpetrator engage in aggressive or self-states are simply reporters of traumatic memories without any affect. This presentation can confuse professionals who may doubt that the trauma was really experienced or they may minimize the traumatic impact on the child, but as Steele explained in the training DVD, Trauma and Dissociation in Children,  ( Waters, 2007 ) , this is a hallmark of dissociation. It didn’t happen to me, or it happened to me, and it doesn’t really matter.There’s no affect to it. There’s no feeling tone to it. There’s no sense of personal ownership. This is also a sign of depersonalization.

 

Because chronically traumatized dissociative children are easily sensitized to even minor stimuli, they can rapidly switch self states when triggered. These trance states can appear and disappear suddenly without apparent provocation and may contain only specific memories related to their own experiences. Their awareness of other self states or their current environment may be precarious depending on protective barriers between each other. They can emerge after being hidden for years by taking executive control over the child’s body or harass the child from within with degrading comments or pressure the child to engage in self-destructive or aggressive acts. Self-states can appear, engage in aggressive behavior and then disappear, leaving the child bewildered. These children are often accused of lying when they deny such behavior.

Signs of Shifts

Dissociative children can switch so rapidly that it’s easy to overlook the shifts or attribute them to other reasons, such as the child is nervous or just has a cognitive impairment. However, it is these shifts that can be clues to dissociation.

The Following Are Some Signs of Shifts

Sudden staring or glazed look when talked to. Rapid blinking, fluttering, or eye rolling without any warning. Other facial changes biting lip or burrowed frown. Voice changes in tenor, inflection, or language such as baby talk or demanding adult tone. Body posture from relaxed to stiff or from coordinated to clumsy. Contradictory thoughts noted in the same sentence such as enjoying drawing in office to hating it, shifts in awareness of what was just said by the child or therapist, or confusion, discrepancy, or denial of earlier report of traumatic and non-traumatic events. young traumatized children who exhibit dissociative states contrary to children who engage in fantasy play (  Fran S. Waters, 2005 ). Recognizing dissociation in preschool children.

 

Dissociative disorders are associated with a range of psychiatric syndromes. Brand et al., 2009; Schiavone et al., 2018 ), including emotion and behavior dysregulation, as well as chronic self-injury. In fact, up to 86% of dissociative individuals self-injure. ( Ross and Norton, 1989; Saxe, Chawla, and Van der Kolk, 2002 ), which is more frequent than is found in other populations (  Calati, Bensassi & Courtet, 2017;, Saxe et al., 2002 ).

 

People with dissociative disorders may experience any of the following: depression, mood swings, suicidal tendencies, sleep disorders, insomnia, night terrors and sleepwalking, panic attacks and phobias, flashbacks, reactions to stimuli or triggers, alcohol and drug abuse, compulsions and rituals, psychotic-like symptoms, including auditory and visual hallucinations, and eating disorders.

 

In addition, individuals with DID can experience headaches, amnesias, time loss, trances, and out-of-body experiences. Some people with dissociative disorders have a tendency toward self-persecution, self-sabotage, and even violence, both self-inflicted and outward directed. Giller, E. ( 2018 ).

 

While dissociation as an escape from overwhelming experiences, emotions and memories can put an individual at risk for developing a dissociative disorder. Dissociative Disorders, Putnam, ( 2016 ). The Way We Are, How States of Mind Influence Our Identities, Personality, and Potential for Change.

 

Moreover, as per the existing literature, dissociative symptoms may sometimes also include post-traumatic symptoms such as avoidance and numbing, intrusive thoughts and memories, nightmares, flashbacks, traumatic reenactments, and hypogogic hallucinations. International Society for the Study of Dissociation Guidelines for the Evaluation and Treatment of dissociative symptoms in children and adolescents,

( 2004 ).

 

For some, self-injury may be a pathway to dissociate such that the individual

becomes detached from their mind and body while engaging in self-injury ( Klonsky, 2007; Klonsky, E.D. and Mullenkamp, J.J., 2007 ). Self-injury, a research review

for the practitioner. New paragraph. Clinical literature has noted that dissociative disorder patients with childhood trauma histories may be terrified of their own

emotions and those of others and make a considerable effort to avoid experiencing them. Steele, Boon and Van der hart, ( 2017 ). Treating trauma-related dissociation,

a practical integrative approach.

What is Dissociative Amnesia?

Amnesia refers to the inability to recall important personal information that is so extensive that it is not due to ordinary forgetfulness. Most of the amnesia typical of dissociative disorders are not of the classic fugitive type, variety, where people travel long distances and suddenly become alert, disoriented as to where they are and how they got there. Rather, the amnesias are often an important event that is forgotten, such as abuse, a troubling incident, or a block of time from minutes to years. More typically, there are micro-amnesias where the discussion engaged in is not remembered, or the content of a conversation is forgotten from one moment to the next. Some people report that these kinds of experiences often leave them scrambling to figure out what was being discussed. Meanwhile, they try not to let the person with whom they are talking realize they haven’t a clue as to what was just said. ( Maldonado et al., 2002; Stein-

berg et al., 1993, Steinberg, 1995 ).

Dissociative Amnesia – Diagnostic Criteria.

An inability to recall important autobiographical information, usually of a traumatic or stressful nature that is inconsistent with ordinary forgetting. Note, dissociative amnesia most often consists of localized or selective amnesia for a specific event or events or generalized amnesia for identity and life history. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, and other important areas of functioning. The disturbance is not attributable to the physiological effects of a substance, e.g. alcohol or other drug of abuse, a medication of a neurological or other medical condition, e.g. partial complex seizures, transient global amnesia, sequelae of a closed head injury, traumatic brain injury, other neurological condition. The disturbance is not better explained by dissociative identity disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, acute stress disorder, somatic symptom disorder, or major or mild neurocognitive disorder.

Symptoms and Signs of Dissociative Amnesia

The main symptom of dissociative amnesia is memory loss that is inconsistent with normal forgetfulness. The amnesia may be localized, selective, generalized. Rarely dissociative amnesia is accompanied by purposeful travel or bewildered wandering called fugue, from the Latin word fugue to flee.

 

Localized amnesia involves being unable to recall a specific event or events or a specific period of time. These gaps in memory are usually related to trauma or stress. For example, patients may forget the months or years of being abused as a child or the days spent in intense combat, the amnesia may not manifest for hours, days or longer after the traumatic period, usually the forgotten time period, which can range from minutes to decades, is clearly demarcated. Typically patients experience one or more episodes of memory loss.

 

Selective amnesia involves forgetting only some of the events during a certain period of time or only part of a traumatic event. Patients may have both localized and selective amnesia.

 

In generalized amnesia, patients forget their identity and life history, e.g. who they are, where they went, to whom they spoke, and what they did, said, thought, experienced, and felt. Some patients can no longer access well-learned skills and lose formerly known information about the world.

 

Generalized dissociative amnesia is rare. It is more common among combat veterans, people who have been sexually assaulted and people experiencing extreme stress or conflict. Onset is usually sudden.

 

In systemized amnesia, patients forget information in a specific category such as all information about a particular person or about their family.

 

In continuous amnesia patients forget each new event as it occurs.

 

There are also seven factors which predict amnesia namely abuse by the caregiver, explicit threats demanding silence, alternative realities in an environment, isolation during abuse, young at age of abuse, alternative reality defining statements by caregiver, and lack of discussion about abuse ( Dallam, 2005 ).

 

The etiology of dissociative amnesia appears to be related to extreme stress,

especially if the individual is experiencing trauma for the second time. Dissociative amnesia was formerly known as psychogenic amnesia. Dissociative amnesia is also caused by internal conflicts such as guilt, criminal offences, and interpersonal difficulties. The Merck Manual ( 2006 ).

Dissociative amnesia can also be caused by epilepsy.

 

Fouche, et al. ( 2008 ) found the etiology for dissociative amnesia appears to be related to extreme stress, especially if the individual is experiencing trauma for the second time and dissociative amnesia is caused by a number of factors, one of which is abuse. Fouche, et al., ( 2008 ).

 

Fouche et al.( 2008 )  identified five different types of memory loss within the dissociative amnesia diagnosis.

 

Localized amnesia, when an individual cannot remember certain periods of time and events.

 

Generalized amnesia, when an individual has lost memory of everything including their identity.

 

Continuous amnesia refers to no memory or events up to the present time as well as the present time.

 

Systemized amnesia, when the individual has lost their memory for particular categories of information.

 

Selective amnesia  refers to an individual who can remember some of the events that have taken place during a limited period of time, but not all of the events.

The Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders (  2006 ). Fouche, Paul and Pieterse and Geyer, T. ( 2008 ). Dissociative amnesia related to trauma a systemic review.

 

Dissociative amnesia is also caused by life stressors such as abandonment, financial worries, death of a loved one or marriage and it is also caused by internal conflicts such as guilt, criminal offences, and interpersonal difficulties. The Merck Manual ( 2006 ).

 

Dissociative amnesia can also be caused by epilepsy. Trauma is however one of the most common causes of dissociative amnesia and war, abuse, and natural disasters are the most common causes of this disorder relating to trauma. Dissociative amnesia is more likely to take place if these traumas are severe, chronic, occur in combination, and associated with post-traumatic stress ( Breyer, 2006 ),

 

Dissociative amnesia can happen in any age group. However, it is more common among young adults due to the fact that if the traumatic expression occurred later during childhood, the memories may only be recalled in adulthood ( Fouche, et al., 2008 ).

 

Fouche, et al., (2008 ), also found dissociative amnesia occurs in children when they experience derealization, the feeling of emotional detachment from the people you care about.

 

Fouche et al.(  2008 ) also found amnesia tends to increase with severity of the trauma and is particularly high in victims of combat.

 

Screening is important for OCD, eating disorders, PTSD, RAD, reactive attachment disorder, ADHD, affective disorders, subtrance abuse disorders.

Comorbidity is common with dissociative disorders

Screening is important for OCD, ED disorders, PTSD, RAD, reactive attachment disorder, ADHD, affective disorders, substance abuse disorders, and specific developmental disorders ( Hornstein 1999; Peterson 1998 ).

 

In cases of complex trauma-related psychopathology, dissociation can lead to complex PTSD, dissociative disorder, not otherwise specified, and DID ( Stolbach B., 2005 ).

 

Unique to DD patients, self-injury can occur in a state of dissociation resulting in later amnesia such that the patient does not recall injuring themselves. Up to 60% of DD patients report amnesia before, during, or after self-injuring (Coons and Milstein, 1990 ).

 

Dissociative disorder patients may also have specific self-states, sometimes referred

to as parts, identities, or alters, whose role or function is to self-injure. Dissociative disorder patients can find evidence of hurting themselves without any memory of engaging in such behaviors. The secrecy about and inconsistent awareness of potentially self-destructive and lethal behaviors may amplify the risk of danger of those behaviors among individuals with dissociative disorders. The secrecy about and inconsistent awareness of potentially self-destructive and lethal behaviors may amplify the risk of danger of those behaviors among individuals with dissociative disorders.

 

The majority of individuals with dissociative disorders report engaging in self-injury. Up to 86% of dissociative individuals report a history of non-suicidal self-injury, NSSI, and up to 72% attempt suicide in their lifetime ( Footie, Smolin, Neft and Lipschitz, 2008; Putnam, Guroff, Silberman, Barban and Post, 1986; Ross and Norton, 1989;  Saxe, Chawla and Van de Kulk, 2002 ).

 

Dissociation is associated with self-injury and is an established mediator of the relationship between trauma and self-injury.( e,g.. Dorahy, Carrell, and Thompson, 2019; Rossi, et al., 2019 ).

 

The vast majority of dissociative disorder patients, 92.31%, reported being at least partially unaware of what leads them to have self-injury urges and many individuals with dissociative disorders experience some reasons for self-injury that are different from those with other disorders.

There is some research that suggests the reason some dissociative patients self-injure, is to stop feelings of depersonalization or numbness ( Klonsky, 2007;  Klonsky and Glenn, 2009 ).

 

Symptoms of dissociation are seen in populations of children and adolescents with other disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder, ( Putnam, Hornstein, and Peterson 1996 ), obsessive compulsive disorder, OCD ( Stein and Walters 1999 ),

and reactive attachment disorder as well as in general populations of traumatized and hospitalized adolescents, ( Sanders and Giolas 1991;  Atlas Weissman and Leibowitz 1997 ), and delinquent adolescents ( Carrion and Steiner 2000 ). The guidelines identify general principles applicable to dissociative processes regardless of the child’s presenting diagnosis.

 

The diagnosis of dissociative disorder not otherwise specified DDNOS is the most common in populations of dissociative children and adolescents ( Putnam et al.

1996 ) even though no diagnostic criteria have been set for this diagnosis. While individual case studies of children with puzzling and atypical dissociative presentations described variously as depersonalization  ( Allers, White and Mullis, 1997; Dissociative Amnesia or Dissociative Fugue, Coons, 1996; Keller and Shaywitz, 1986; and D.I.D. Jacobson, 1995 ) continue to be published in peer-reviewed journals.

 

There is still no real consensus about the typical case and thus no consensus about diagnostic criteria. For this reason, in these guidelines, the perspective on assessment and treatment is symptom-based. ISSTD Child and Adolescent Treatment Guidelines

for the Evaluation and Treatment of Dissociative Symptoms in Children and Adolescents, ( 2003 ).

 

CDT is associated as being the genesis of well-defined clinical pictures such as post-traumatic stress disorder, PTSD ( Terock et al., 2016; Williamson et al., 2017), borderline personality disorder, BPD ( Ford and Courtois, 2014; Liotti and Farina,

2016, Cattane et al., 2017), Somatoform disorders, SDs, ( Carlier et al. 2016;

Roelofs and Pasman 2016 ), eating disorders, EDs, ( Caslini et al 2016; Pignatelli,

et al 2017 ); Trottier and MacDonald, 2017 ) ,sleep disorders (  Kajeepeta et al

2015 ), mood disorders ( Was et al, 2016; Iaworska-Andryszwwska and

Rybakoiwski, 2018 ), paychosis, ( Mayo et al 2017; Williams et al 2018 ),

substance related and addictive disorders Edalatti and Krank, 2016; Konkoly,

Thege et al, 2017 ) and obsessive compulsive disorder, ( Belli, 2014 ).Trauma, dissociation, and post-traumatic stress frequently co-occur in survivors of maltreatment and we add cumulative developmental trauma.

 

Trauma-Related disorders ( TRDs ), dissociative disorders and personality disorders

are more rural than the exception in patients who report childhood trauma and emotional neglect. More insight on the course of comorbidities could help to guide treatment and to develop a more integrative and dimensional view on psychopathology following childhood trauma. We recommend that future research pays more attention to these comorbidities by using less exclusion criteria and looking at psychopathology in a more transdiagnostic way instead of a categorical manner. Furthermore, our study showed that the course of psychopathology differs significantly among men and women, pointing to the need for more attention on gender differences in treatment and future research.

 

The strength of our study is the extensive and repeated assessment of TRDs, DDs, and PDs using structured clinical interviews, whereas other studies often rely on self-report questionnaires, ( i.e. Brand et al, 2019; Dorrepaal et al, 2012 ). The course of comorbid trauma-related dissociative and personality disorders, two-year follow-up of the Friesland study, cohort Swart, S. et al. ( 2020 ).

Somatic Symptoms

Inquire about somatic symptoms ( e.g. headache, stomach aches, other undiagnosed pain ) as well as somatoform dissociation, which includes symptoms of loss of physical sensations, unusual pain tolerance or pain sensitivity and other sensory perceptual anomalies ( Nijenhuis Spinhoven, Van Dyck, Van der Hart and Vanderlinden, 1996 ).

ISSTD ( 2003 ).

Post-Traumatic Symptoms

These include positive symptoms such as nightmares, night terrors, disturbing, hypnagogic hallucinations, intrusive traumatic thoughts and memories, re-experience

or flashbacks, and traumatic re-enactments, as well as negative symptoms such as numbing and avoidance.

 

Sexually reactive or sexually offending behavior may occur in traumatized children and may co-occur with dissociative symptomatology. Distinguishing between normal sexual behaviors, sexual reactive, and sexually molesting behaviors in children and adolescents, and evaluate the role dissociation plays in the maintenance of these ( Friedrich, et al. 2001; Johnson, 2002 ).

 

Self-injurious behavior is common among dissociative teens which may include cutting, burning, scratching, or head banging. This behavior may be secret, may serve an affect-regulating function, and may be performed in a dissociative trance state, or used to facilitate or interrupt such a state. Gently inquire about all stages of self-harm, cutting, burning, hitting, etc. i.e. planning, preparing, doing, and recuperation, as some or all stages may be done in a dissociated state. ( depersonalized, numbed, trance state, robotic state, dreamlike state, etc.c)

Identity Alteration and Changes of State

Some children may show the presence of internal others, alters, ego states, self states, personalities, etc. For the purpose of these guidelines, all these terms are synonymous. Disorders are frequently misdiagnosed because of their comorbid symptomatology like attention deficit and hyperactivity disorders, conduct disorders or oppositional defiant disorders, schizophrenia, various forms of epilepsy and affective disorders. In early childhood, the associated aspect of the self –  do not tend to have a well elaborated sense of autonomy. Instead, feelings, thoughts, and impulses that the child experiences as foreign may be projected onto transitional objects such as dolls or fantasy playmates.

Dissociative disorders in children and adolescents and their personality profile: a competitive study ( Rana et al. 2015 ).

Motivated Forgetting: Cognitive Neuroscience and Motivated Forgetting

People control unwanted memories by engaging systems evolved to inhibit habitual responses to inhibit memories, making them harder to remember. The mechanisms that achieve this function are not exotic special-purpose responses to trauma, but rather are applications of broad mechanisms that achieve cognitive control. Thus, the tools to understand motivated forgetting are readily available in the armamentarium of cognitive neuroscience. The process begins as an intentional act. For these reasons, the present mechanism does not address cases where memories are forgotten abruptly via an unconscious defence mechanism. Accounting for such cases requires one to provide additional arguments to why a process that normally develops with practice can be applied abruptly with dramatic effect, and with accompanying meta memory amnesia.

The Intentionality Shift Theory

After an unpleasant event, many people confront challenges in memory control, particularly if reminders are inescapable. The memories are recent and accessible. Given motivation to control awareness, however, intrusions diminish with time and effort. It is thus unavoidable that living with the demand to control an unwanted memory forces a person to improve with practice, as happens with all skills.

This improvement will take the form of one or more habitual cognitive, or affective responses to unwelcome reminders that suppress the experience and redirect thought. If practice continues over years, people may get very well adapted to the task. Thus, protracted practice is a critical feature of real cases of motivated forgetting that is not easily studied in the laboratory.

 

Although the intentionality shift theory is speculative, it may account for an important feature of recovered memories. People not only forget the original experience, but also how they came to forget it. This forgetting of the cognitions that one has about one’s memories, including cognitions about intentional forgetting, might be termed metamemory amnesia. A complete account of motivated forgetting thus requires an explanation both for how the memory itself was forgotten and how the forgetting itself was forgotten ( Anderson and Huddleston, 2012 ).

 

Research on inhibitory phenomena such as retrieval-induced forgetting indicate that memories suppressed by inhibitory processes are actually more susceptible to distortion via misinformation effects than memories that have not been inhibited ( see: McLeod and Saunders, 2008, for a review ). Thus, suppressing unwanted memories over a long time may fragment the experience and render it subjected to distortion and reconstruction processes ( Erdelyi, 2006 ).

 

According to Dahlem, 2005, scientific evidence shows that it is not rare for traumatized individuals to experience a delayed recall for the trauma ( Dahlem S, 2005 ). Questions and answers regarding dissociative amnesia.

 

When people repeatedly confront reminders to an unwanted memory and take mental action to limit awareness of that memory, processes are engaged that achieve at least two basic outcomes. (a ), they deprive a memory of the normal facilitation it would enjoy, and ( b ), they disrupt retention of the excluded trace compared to when no reminders appear. Both of these actions, on average, reduce long-term accessibility of this suppressed trace.

 

When dissociative disordered individuals perceive their emotions as unwanted, overwhelming, or threatening, they can employ cognitive strategies that isolate these emotions from the forefront of their awareness ( DePrince and Freyd, 1999 ).

 

The fact that traumatic life experience predicts the negative control effect in the laboratory suggests that it measures mechanisms that may be engaged in everyday life. This suggests that the negative control effect provides a good model of motivated forgetting outside the laboratory ( Hulbert, M.C., Shivde. G.S. and Anderson, M.C. 2011 ), Evidence against associative blocking as a cause of cue independent retrieval-induced forgetting, (2011 ).

Goldberg, L.R., & Freyd J.J. ( 2006 ). Self Reports of Potentially Traumatic

Experiences in an Adult Community Sample, Gender Differences and Test-Retest Stabilities of the Items in a Brief Betrayal Trauma Survey.

What Can Be Said?

This research provides an existence proof of a process that could in principle explain real cases of motivated forgetting, including cases of recovered memories.

Developmental Effects

Cognitive control improves across late childhood and early adolescence, and a number of investigators have argued that this development reflects increasing effective inhibitory control, ( e.g. Harnishfeger and Pope, 1996; Wilson and Kipp, 1998 ). If so, one should observe a developmental progression in the ability to suppress unwanted memories with negative control effects emerging in middle childhood, 10 to 12 years of age. This was tested by Paz- Alonso, et al. ( 2009 ). Strikingly, the negative control effect increased with age, being absent for the youngest group but present in the middle childhood and in adulthood on both the same probe and independent probe tests. There was a continuous improvement with age within childhood and the size of the negative control effect. Of interest, this negative control effect during middle childhood years occurred against a backdrop of overall improvements in declarative memory over this age range.

 

It seems uncontroversial to assume that the victim would be motivated to keep the abuse out of mind, regardless of who the perpetrator is. Importantly, however, the person abused at the hands of a family member faces a far greater and more consistent challenge in achieving this goal precisely because reminders to it would be inescapable, perhaps for many years. Keeping the abuse out of mind despite constantly confronting reminders requires a way to stop the reminder from eliciting the trace and a way to retrain memory to elicit other thoughts upon seeing the abuser. Basically, if one cannot escape reminders, one must adapt one’s internal landscape by retrieving diversionary thoughts unrelated to the abuse when the abuser is present, which we call the

Selective Retrieval Hypothesis, Anderson, ( 2001 ). See also Bjork et al., ( 1998 ). If Freyd is correct, this motivated selective retrieval of non-abuse information would be especially likely in the case of parental abuse. The child would have powerful motives for not thinking of the abuse if they are to sustain a necessary attachment relationship with the parent. The abuse cannot be on their minds as it would undermine the ability

to behave and feel appropriately. Thus, when motives to control awareness are present, constant reminders actually set the occasion for the engagement of processes that

limit awareness of the memory, impairing retention. Anderson, M.C. ( 2001 ) Active forgetting, evidence for functional inhibition as a source of memory failure.

Correlations with Stop Signal Inhibition

DePue et al. ( 2010 ) observed a negative correlation between stop signal reaction time on a motor response task, negative ( -.58 ), and the proportion of emotionally negative pictures items successfully forgotten after retrieval suppression. Thus the faster people were able to stop an initial motor action, the more memory inhibition they showed, indicating that motor stopping speed is related to retrieval suppression and stopping tasks correlated with engagement of right lateral prefrontal cortex during retrieval suppression, suggesting that the mechanisms underlying performance on these tasks may be related.

Attention Deficit Disorder

Neuroimaging studies of attention deficit disorder have shown that individuals with ADHD do not engage right lateral prefrontal cortex as effectively as controls during motor response suppression ( Booth et al. 2005; Casey et al, 1997; Depue et al.,

2010; Rubia, Brammer, Tonne &Taylor, 2005; Tamm, Menon, Ringel & Reiss, 2004 ).

Findings are consistent with the hypothesis that fronto-hippocampal modulation is a crucial neural mechanism underlying the suppression of unwanted memories, and with the view that ADHD in part reflects a deficit in inhibitory control. They further suggest that adults with attention deficit disorder should have difficulty with controlling intrusive memories.

Development of Retrieval Suppression

As mentioned earlier, behavioral work has established an increasing efficacy at suppressing unwanted memories in middle childhood. Ogle and Paz-Alonso in

prep, Paz-Alonso et al., ( 2009 ). Recently, Paz Alonso et al., ( 2011 ), have studied

the neural basis of this shift.

 

Participants from three age groups, 15  8-9 year olds, 14  11-12 year olds, and

14 young adults, were scanned as they performed the Think-No-Think task.

Aggregating across all 43 participants showed robust engagement of right

dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and ventrolateral prefrontal cortex during retrieval suppression and a clear reduction in hippocampal activity during suppressed trials, consistent with the foregoing imaging studies by Anderson et al., ( 2004 ), and
DePue et al., ( 2007 ).

 

Moreover, activity in dorsolateral prefrontal cortex was functionally related to activity

in the hippocampus during retrieval suppression, indicating an interaction between these regions that helps to implement the process of retrieval suppression. Age group reveal neural changes that characterize the development of memory control. First, whereas younger adults engaged lateral prefrontal cortex and posterior parietal cortex while effectively suppressing memory retrieval, eight to nine-year-olds, did not effectively engage these regions ( C. Anderson, M.C. and Bungee S. 2011 ),

pneumonic control relies on a frontal parietal hippocampal network that is strengthened over childhood.

 

The emergence of the capacity to suppress unwanted memories reflects increasingly effective active engagement of prefrontal cortex to control hippocampal activity, and importantly, tighter coupling of the fronto-parietal hippocampal network of regions involved in this process.

Neural Mechanisms of Retrieval Suppression: The Basic Findings

The strong engagement of control regions during suppression indicates that this goal is accomplished not by a passive failure to engage retrieval, but by engaging processes to prevent unwanted memories from coming to mind. Importantly, these findings support the idea that common brain regions may control stopping both unwanted memories and unwanted actions. Anderson et al. ( 2004 ) identified brain regions that were less active during suppressed trials compared to respond trials. Importantly, there was a reduction in hippocampal activity bilaterally. This difference suggests that subjects can strategically down-regulate mnemonic activity in the hippocampus to prevent conscious recollection and disrupt latter memory.

 

Cue independence previously demonstrated in the context of retrieval-induced forgetting ( Anderson and Spellman 1995; C. Anderson 2003 ) for review, has been observed in a number of studies of retrieval suppression ( Anderson and Green

2001; Anderson et al. 2004;  Anderson, Reinholz, Kuhn and Mayr 2011; Paz-Alonso,

Ghetti, Matlin, Anderson and Bunge, 2009; Tomlinson, Huber, Rieth, and Davelaar 2009; Tramoni et al., 2009 ).

Neural Mechanisms of Emotional Memory Suppression

DePue et al. observed several additional findings that may prove important to understanding retrieval suppression more broadly. First, suppressing retrieval reduced activation in right hippocampus. This reduction is consistent with the view that retrieval suppression reduces hippocampal activity to disrupt conscious recollection and broadly replicates earlier findings by Anderson et al. ( 2004 ), despite considerably more complex naturalistic stimuli. Second, retrieval suppression significantly reduced amygdala activity, which fits with the broadly established role of this structure in emotion processing. Depe et al. ( 2007 ).

Negative Control Effects Build with Repetition

Many studies have found that the size of the negative control effect increases with the number of times people attempt to suppress retrieval. For instance, averaged over the three studies, ( n = 96 ), in Anderson and Green ( 2001 ), participants recalled 87%, 85%, 83% and 80% of the items after 0, 1, 8 and 16 suppression attempts. More recently, Anderson-Reinhold’s Kuhn and Mayr ( 2011 ) found 84%, 81%, 79% and 76% across the same levels of repetition for younger adults. Similar parametric functions have been found by others ( Joormann et al. 2009; Kim, Yi, Yang and Lee. 2007; Hanslmeyer, Leipold, and Bauml. 2010;  Joormann, Hertel, Brozovich, and Gottlieb. 2005;  Lampert et al 2010; Lee,-Lee & Tsai, 2007 ).

 

Converging support from electrophysiological research has established several indices of retrieval suppression and the likely engagement of response override. The extent to which response override mechanisms are engaged, predicts forgetting of the suppressed trace, and individual differences in the function of these systems appears

to be related to how well people control unwanted memories. Towards a Cognitive and Neurological Model of Motivated Forgetting, Anderson and Huddleston, ( 2012 ).

Summary of Evidence for Retrieval Suppression

As the foregoing review illustrates, people clearly can control retrieval as indexed both by the total control effect and the negative control effect. Nearly every study conducted on retrieval suppression shows a total control effect indicating that reminders do not intrinsically improve accessibility to related memories, rather, whether one benefits from reminders depends upon one’s intentions and motivations and whether those lead to the engagement of processes that shut down retrieval and terminate the normal benefits that would be expected by reminders.

 

The negative control effect indicates that retrieval stopping is accomplished by one or more processes that disrupt retention of the suppressed trace. The negative control effect has been replicated widely and in the aggregate yields clear evidence that retrieval suppression causes memory disruption. Both thought substitution and direct suppression without thought substitutes induce negative control effects.

 

Other investigators, however, have argued that thought substitution is a superior method for forgetting unwanted memories and have experimentally manipulated this behavior. In an early study, Hertel and Calcaterra, ( 2005 ), gave participants alternative words to associate to the suppressed cues and asked them to retrieve these thought substitutes as a way of preventing the unwanted memory from coming to mind whenever its respective suppressed cue word appeared. They found a significantly larger negative control effect with thought substitutes, 15% compared to an unaided group. Colleagues have reported robust negative control effects with thought substitutes ( Hertel and McDaniel, 2010;. Joormann, Hertel, Lemoult, & Gottlieb, 2009;  LeMoult,, Hertel, and Joormann, 2010 ).

 

Research on thought substitution demonstrates that learning to retrieve alternative diversionary thoughts in response to a reminder can be an effective way to hasten the forgetting of an unwanted memory. This finding fits well with the Selective Retrieval Hypothesis, Anderson, ( 2001 ), of the enhanced forgetting of parental abuse

described at the outset. According to that hypothesis, victims of abuse who are faced with inescapable reminders to an unwanted memory are forced into a situation of retraining their memory response to the reminder by selectively retrieving alternative thoughts and memories about the abuser. Anderson, M.C. and Green, C. ( 2001 ), Suppressing unwanted memories by executive control.

 

Reductions in accessibility are likely to be accomplished by several mechanisms, including direct suppression and thought substitution. Regardless of how these reductions are accomplished, however, one can certainly no longer say that there is

no way in principle for motivated forgetting of abuse experiences to occur.

 

Cues help participants recall items that would have been forgotten. It would suggest that encountering related cues in everyday life should increase the chances of a suppressed memory being recovered. Whether some cues might be more powerful in eliciting recovery than others is also a question of interest. For instance, reinstatement of spatial or emotional context may be important. Smith, S.M. and Moynan, S.C., ( 2008 ), Forgetting and Recovering the Unforgettable.

Can Repressed Memories of Abuse Be Later Remembered?

Reminders of an unpleasant experience such as abuse may be threatening during childhood, but as circumstances change and a person grows to be more self-sufficient, secure, and independent of the abuser, feelings of threat that drive maintenance of memory control may subside. If the mode of driving memory control no longer dominates, recovery may be possible. Pavlov, I.P., ( 1927 ), Conditioned reflexes;

Rescorla, RA, ( 2004 ), Spontaneous recovery, learning and memory; Wheeler, MA,

1995, improvement in recall over time without repeated testing, spontaneous recovery revisited.

The Reinstatement Hypothesis

The foregoing description assumes that forgetting becomes increasingly successful as people practice. Truly upsetting experiences may be characterized by periodic resurgence in which the experience, not altogether forgotten, intrudes again, either in response to diminished capacity, new powerful reminders to the experience, or spontaneous recovery. These periodic challenges demand that retrieval suppression be reinstated. This may take the form of return to intentional suppression or, instead, a resumption of diversionary thoughts.

 

Undoubtedly, reminders of the unwanted experience are unpleasant, as are thoughts about the experience of being reminded. For these reasons, reinstatement or suppression will not merely be targeted at the original experience, but also thoughts that one has about it during the period of reminding. If we remember our thoughts, whether about perceptions or other thoughts, it is because these thoughts are stored in episodic memory as part of the content of experience. If a new trace is stored that encodes our thoughts about the memory, this new trace will share much in common with the original memory and be a natural target for retrieval suppression. Anderson and Huddleston, ( 2012 ).

 

In Cameron’s ( 1993 ) study  72% of people abused by a parent reported a period of forgetting followed by recovery, whereas only 90% of those abused by a non-parent reported any period of forgetting. Similar patterns were observed in Feldman, Summers, and Pope’s data, 53% versus 30% forgetting for those abused by a parent or stranger, respectively. Increased subjective reports of forgetting for caregiver-related abuse has been subsequently reported in other studies, ( e.g. Freyd, de Prince and Zurbriggen, 2006; Schultz, Passmore and Yoder, 2003, C. Freyd, DePrince and Gleaves, 2007;

DePrince et al., 2012 ), this volume for reviews.

 

 

A gradual shift from a direct suppression approach to selective retrieval may ultimately permit people to forget not only the unpleasant experience but also the process of suppressing it. There are two mechanisms by which this type of goal forgetting may occur. First, shifting from direct suppression to retrieval of particular thoughts. Although the initial purpose of retrieving distracting thoughts is to intentionally suppress retrieval, this goal may be forgotten over time. If retrieval of thought substitutes reinstates inhibition of the unwanted event or further exaggerates interference, the shift from intentional suppression to selective retrieval should facilitate unawareness of the mental actions people take to avoid awareness of the unwanted memory. Second, as people become more practiced in retrieving diversionary thoughts in response to reminders, retrieval may become relatively automatic. Memories of earlier efforts to suppress are themselves associated to the reminder. This shift to retrieving alternative thoughts may ultimately suppress memories of control as well. This shift to retrieving alternative thoughts may ultimately suppress memories of control as well.

The Rotating Boy

Many years ago I was referred to a 9-year-old boy and his separated parents at a Mental Health Centre.  The boy, whom I’ll call John, lived primarily with his mother, but was in constant contact with his father, and periodically ran away to live with his father, landing back at mother’s each time after a few weeks.  I worked, largely unsuccessfully, with the boy and each parent individually, for about two years, touching base after that occasionally for a period of about seven years.  The family also accessed other treatment resources without success.

 

Mother was a hardworking, very intelligent graduate student, living in relative poverty on scholarships.  Father was an unemployed house painter, also very intelligent and verbally articulate, with a million excuses regarding why he didn’t find a better career, most of them involving blaming mother.  The two parents hated one another, and engaged in considerable “negative intimacy” by telephone.

 

When he was at his mother’s house, John refused to do his homework or chores, left the house in a mess, lay around and ate and grew fat, and got into screaming matches with his mother, usually over his not doing chores such as mowing the lawn.  Father was in constant contact with him, offering to rescue him, saying he could come and live with him and his latest young woman, and they’d play tennis all the time and the boy would be treated like an adult.  Each time the conflict between John and his mother would build up until a final blowout, during which John would phone his father and go to live there.  During the first week or so at his father’s house, John would become progressively disillusioned with father.  The promised tennis matches wouldn’t materialize, Dad would be too busy with his current girlfriend to spend any time with John, and John was actually expected to do things like wash dishes.  Eventually John would move back with mother, and after a brief honeymoon period Dad would begin to woo him again and the cycle would repeat itself.

 

When I saw John during his periods at his mother’s house, he would rant about how horrible his mother was and how he hated her.  When I saw him during his periods at his father’s house, he would show sadness about being let down by Dad.  Mother would use sessions with me to learn better behavior management techniques, but nothing would work, and she and John would end up screaming at each other.  Father would use sessions with me to talk about everything except his own parenting.  The cycle went on for years, until when John was 16 he returned to me, having exhausted the other community resources.  At this point he was dropping out of school.  I decided to just see him individually, and in one session he suddenly had a breakthrough!  He realized that the anger and hatred he’d had for his mother all the time was not his own but his father’s, and that his mother did not actually deserve it.  He was really excited about this discovery.  I did not see John after this breakthrough session – but a few years later I saw his mother at a school event, and she told me that from that point on John had lived with her in harmony!

 

Dr. Jekyll’s Children

 

Where does the problem start?  Often, I believe, while the marriage is still intact.  When a parent is intermittently abusive, either to the partner or to a child, the child is likely to develop dissociative states.  In my article “The Dissociative Dance of Spouse Abuse,” published in Treating Abuse Today in 1998, I described the dissociative interactions between the spouse abuser and his or her partner.  As the abuser switches between ego states (the nice “Dr. Jekyll” seen by the outside world, the depressed and critical person of the buildup phase, and the out-of-control abusive “Mr. Hyde”) the partner begins to develop chains of state-dependent memory, so that while “Dr. Jekyll” is out, her memories of “Mr. Hyde” are hazy.  She is unable to leave because it is unsafe when “Mr. Hyde” is there, and when “Dr. Jekyll” is present she finds it difficult to believe in the existence of “Mr. Hyde.”

In my article I quoted from the journal of Jane, an abused woman, as follows :

“I remember my children, one at a time, being berated and shamed and humiliated by their father for minor misdemeanors.  Me in a double-bind. Sometimes I’d try to defend them, getting in between, and this is what he wanted, his 2-year-old Mr. Hyde part, to fight with me; to destroy the mother who couldn’t protect her child. The terrified children looked to me for safety, unable to find it. Then being witnesses to his escalating abuse of me, culminating in violence, because I’d stepped in to protect them. After the abuse, they needed comfort, and I was unable to comfort them because at the moment when they needed it I was being abused. Sometimes I’d say something to him about hurting the child, and would see him escalate his abuse of the child because I’d dared to question his authority. And he could see it hurt me if he hurt the child. Sometimes I’d watch him berate a child and choose not to intervene, though it broke my heart, because the outcome for the child might be worse if I did. But when I didn’t step in, I appeared in their eyes to be complicit with his abuse of them”.

What does it do to a child to be placed in this kind of situation?  The child is exposed to more than one Daddy – the frightening one, the nurturing one, and the regular one shown outside the home.  The child is also exposed to a terrified and helpless Mommy as well as a nurturing one only when Daddy isn’t around.  The child needs to be able to provide nurture for both parents as well as to keep himself or herself safe.  The child needs to be ready to deal with whatever parental ego state he or she is confronted with.

 

An important factor in the spousal abuse situation is that the abusive parent’s love may be conditional on the child’s rejection of the non-abusive parent.  The abusive parent needs desperately to see himself as the “good guy” and justified in his behavior.  So his explanations, as outlined above, tell the child that in order to be safe, the child must adopt the abusive parent’s view of the situation.  If the love of the non-abusive parent is not conditional, but is frequently unavailable because of the abuse, the child needs to dissociate his awareness of the actual situation in order to obtain what love he can.

 

“After a blowout, he would gather the huddled children into his arms and explain to them kindly what a mean and thoughtless person I was — how I’d deserved it — what a terrible parent I was. He took a confused and traumatized child and gave him a verbal interpretation of what had happened, inserting it right at the moment of trauma — like a hypnotic suggestion. The children could evade his abuse by listening supportively to him bitch about me. The only safe place for a child in a spouse-abusing household is in the arms of the abuser. This happened literally when they were babies and infants, he would strike me holding a child in his arms. It happened psychologically all the time; if they took his side, they could be protected from harm. Often he would make them take sides, call them in as witnesses in some dispute, point out to them how bad I was.”

Keeping safe from the frightening parent (Daddy in the example, but it could be Mommy) involves accepting Daddy’s verbal explanation that Mommy is the bad guy, even though the child’s own eyes and ears tell him otherwise.  The child also has to keep the secret of what it is like at home.  This is a prime breeding ground for dissociation, or at least of the development of fairly separate ego states.

 

Baker and O’Neil (1996) speculate that a child living with a “frightened-frightening” parent may develop a secure ego state for the protecting daddy, a traumatized ego state for the threatening daddy, and an avoidant or resistant ego state for the unavailable Mommy.  I’d add a shamed and despairing ego state to handle Daddy’s verbal abuse, a nurturing ego state to look after Daddy when he is depressed or childlike and possibly look after Mommy when she is hurt, and a competent ego state to handle the outside world.  Depending on the situation, there may be others.  The degree of split between these states depends on how long the child has to live in the situation, how severe the abuse is, how young the child is when it happens, and how terrible the consequences might be of not keeping the secret.

 

During the abusive marriage, a child may be called on during a parental fight as a witness on the side of the abuser – and after the fight to comfort the parent who has been abused.  He must be able to identify with the viewpoint of whichever parent needs him at the time.  He also learns that one parent has a great deal more power than the other, and that it is safe to show love for the other parent only when the abusive parent isn’t present.

 

One of Jane’s sons developed a form of alternating attachments at a very young age.  For a period of days he would become “stuck to” one parent, either father or mother, and tell the other parent “Go away, I’m stuck to Daddy (or Mommy).”  If the situation required him to spend time with the parent he wasn’t “stuck to,” the parent he was “stuck to” would have to literally peel him off their leg and hand him over to the other parent.  He would then switch his allegiance.  It seemed that he was able to tolerate thinking one parent was the “good guy” but was unable to grasp the complexity of the situation, so reduced it to simplicity by allowing himself awareness of only one parent at a time.

 

I use spouse abuse as my primary example, because it involves no direct abuse of the children.  After the spouses split up, the children’s life with either parent may be much more secure.  But either parent may believe the other to be a monster, and try to involve the child in taking sides against that other parent, just as they do in the marriage.  The abused partner may have difficulty believing her ex can treat children any better than he treated her.  And the abuser may continue the beliefs about his ex which he used to justify the abuse.

Dissociative Parental Alignment

For the first 12 years of my psychology practice, I worked with children and families in Child & Youth Mental Health.  During this time I frequently came upon situations similar to John’s.  I began to recognize a common pattern – children whose negative perception of one of their separated parents appeared to be entirely the product of the other parent’s beliefs, but not consistent with the reality of the hated parent.  Often the parent who alleged the other to be disturbed or dangerous was in my assessment the more disturbed or dangerous parent.

 

When I heard the term “Parental Alienation Syndrome” (PAS) from a probation officer with whom I was collaborating on a case, I embraced it with open arms.  This was before  Richard Gardner used the term to discount genuine cases of sexual abuse, and developed a poorly validated test to tell the difference between genuine abuse cases and PAS cases.  A 1999 summary article by Philip Stahl in the California Psychologist describes the parental alienation situation.  He makes the point that Gardner did not invent the syndrome, and quotes the original 1980 book, Surviving the Breakup, by Wallerstein and Kelly – “These young people (9 to 12) were vulnerable to being swept up into the anger of one parent against the other.  They were faithful and valuable battle allies in efforts to hurt the other parent.  Not infrequently, they turned on the parent they had (previously) loved and been very close to prior to the marital separation.”

 

An article by Kenneth Waldron and David Joanis in the American Journal of Family Law (1996) states that Gardner’s conceptualization of the problem and the dynamics underlying the problem proved at best incomplete, if not simplistic and erroneous.  More extensive research on the topic has more clearly established the complex involvement and motives of all the actors in this disastrous family drama.  Each of the family members takes a role in the alienation process, which usually begins well before the divorce event.

 

I think that in dismissing “Parental Alienation Syndrome” because of Gardner we are “throwing the baby out with the bathwater.”  Perhaps we need a new term.  “Dissociative parental alignment?”  Very few of the cases I’ve seen have involved sexual abuse allegations.    All of them have involved a parent who desperately needs the child to accept his or her extremely negative view of the other parent, and a child who succumbs to the pressure from that parent to reject, hate and fear the other parent.

 

Disturbed parents do indeed involve children in their disturbed world-view, in a kind of  folie a deux, and in so doing cut their children off from the other more normal parent.  I remembered the term “folie a deux” from my undergraduate days, but when I tried to look it up on the Internet I drew a blank.  My recollection was that it referred to a paranoid view of reality which was engaged in by two people together.  We see this phenomenon in cults and extreme religions, including the terrorist groups which can induce young people to die for their causes.  We know a lot about how brainwashing works.  We need to face the fact that parents do it, not only when they are sexually abusing children, but when they are enmeshed with their children and out of touch with some important aspects of reality.

 

When parents are separated, and have access to children but no continuing access to their former spouse, fears and hatred they have for the other parent can and do easily escalate.  A parent who accuses his spouse or ex-spouse of being a horrible person and/or abusing the child may be just describing reality, or may be caught in a self-reinforcing cycle of fear and anger without the opportunity to disconfirm his or her perceptions.  Various psychological motivations come together to keep this cycle going :

 

(1) anger and vengefulness

(2) fear that his or her own trauma history will be repeated on the child

(3) projecting his or her own abusiveness onto the partner; and

(4) unmet childhood needs which cause this parent to need the child as a totally supportive partner or parent.

 

Children placed in this situation need to dissociate the reality of what the other parent is actually like in order to feel safe with the disturbed parent. Unfortunately, it’s difficult to tell whether a child rejecting a parent has been brainwashed and has dissociated the real qualities of that parent, or whether the child has good reasons for his or her rejection.  Most of my DID clients have horror stories about trying to tell on their abusive parent or parents, and not being believed.

Examples From My Practice

A man who was a very loving father to his 6-year-old daughter from his first marriage remarried and had a son with a very controlling Oriental woman.  She verbally abused him constantly, in particular because he spent a normal amount of time with his daughter, who she saw as some kind of a rival.  She had traditional beliefs including that a child needs a mother but not really a father.  The man was afraid to leave this woman because he believed she would cut off his access to his son, falsely accuse him of sexual abuse, or alienate his son from him.  I believe his perceptions to be accurate.  When I confronted the woman in a marital session about her verbal abuse of the husband, she was furious.  She came in the next time with a tape recorder, to record what she believed to be my inappropriate therapeutic behavior.

 

A lesbian couple attended my parenting classes, then came to me for relationship counseling.  The woman who’d given birth to their little girl (with sperm from a gay male friend) had a sexual abuse history and was emotionally disturbed; the other woman was basically normal and very rational.  When the normal woman took an innocent photograph of the little girl (almost two years old) in the bathtub, the natural mother became paranoid, and felt this was sexual exploitation.  I saw the photograph, which was not pornographic in any way.  The natural mother left the relationship, and denied the other mother, who really loved her child, any access except visits at daycare, where the child was full of grief that she couldn’t have her normal mommy more than that.  The natural mother eventually moved away from the area, and the normal mother had no rights because they didn’t have a legal marriage or relationship, being lesbian.

 

Several years ago a Roman Catholic couple attended my parenting course.  My recollection is that the father, who was employed in a high-level government position, was a sane and balanced parent, while the mother was prone to emotional overreaction.  I saw the father about three times for therapy, and the mother attended one session but walked out after ten minutes.  Recently the father approached me because he and his wife have recently split up, and his two teenage children refuse to see him.  He came to see me along with his brother and sister-in-law, his sister, and his wife’s parents.  They told the sad story of how five years previously, after several years of the mother’s parents helping out with the children, the mother suddenly cut them out of her and her children’s life entirely.  The father went along with it to save the marriage.  Now the father has been similarly cut off.  His wife is having an affair, and is telling the children that it’s retaliation for the father’s affair.  But he never had an affair.  All these people who saw me seemed sane and balanced, although very sad.  They have lost contact entirely with their children and grandchildren because of the mother’s poisoning her children’s minds against them.

 

A 16-year-old boy came to see me.  He lived with his father, and felt that he hated his mother.  He knew that just a year previously he had lived with his mother and hated his father, but he couldn’t remember why. I had a single session with a 17 year old girl.  Her whole life with her single mother had revolved around the “fact” that the man who’d been like a father to her had sexually molested her at the age of 18 months.  The man had continued to have visits with her, but mother had convinced her of the molestation, which she did not remember.  The girl had no other clinical signs of having been sexually abused.  She came to see me because she had recently visited the town where she had lived for 18 months, and spoken with her mother’s former best friend, who was a psychologist.  This friend told her that she was convinced that the abuse had never happened.

 

In the first few cases, I saw the process occurring in a parent before I saw the results in the children.  In the extended family case, I got to see it in the mother at the start and later saw the results in the children being alienated from their father.  In the case of the boy, I saw the results in the child without seeing what the parents were doing.  I have no way of judging whether the abuse really happened to the girl – but she described being constantly confronted with its alleged reality by her mother, and feeling very sad that the man she loved so much could have done this horrendous thing.  I have also seen parents alienate children from the school and the rest of the community, so that the child actually hates or fears school premises or personnel on the basis of what the parent has told her.

The Myth of the Monster Parent

When a child maintains strongly that they don’t want to be with one parent at all, how are we to tell whether this is based on genuine danger from that parent or on “brainwashing” by the other parent?  The literature (other than Gardner) describes certain behaviors on the part of the parent with whom the child is aligned, and also certain behaviors on the part of the child.

 

Both Stahl and Waldron/Joanis describe the behaviors of the alienating parent as summarized in the literature.  Their merged lists include :

  1. denying the existence of the other parent – e.g. refusing to look at them or acknowledge their presence, or “I don’t ever want to hear that name in this house.”
  2. pairing good experiences or feelings with bad feelings – “Oh, that’s nice. I had a terrible weekend without you.”
  3. merging of feelings between parent and child – “We feel this way…”
  4. talking in extremes and absolutes
  5. constantly attacking the other parent’s character or lifestyle, derogatory and blaming statements about the other parent
  6. putting the child in the middle (message carrying, spying, interrogation about time spent with the other parent)
  7. generalizing from one or two instances to a global meaning – “Remember when your mother was screaming after us when we drove away (because he closed the window on her when she was trying to kiss the kids goodbye) – that’s what I mean when I say she just doesn’t have control over her emotions; that’s why I get scared when you’re over there.”
  8. taking normal differences and turning them into good/bad and right/wrong problems – “I don’t know what’s the matter with your father; he knows that kids need to be in bed by eight.”
  9. creating alliance in the parental battle – “Do you think it’s fair for your rich father to take your poor mother to court all the time?” This can include the powerful tool of the threat of withdrawal of love, or complete abandonment, if the child demonstrates love for or interest in the other parent.”  Informing children about adult issues such as reasons for the divorce, infidelity or financial issues.
  10. convincing the child that kids need one primary parent or that only this parent really loves her, and the other is trying to take the child away from her.
  11. portraying the child as fragile and needing protection (and also that the alienating parent needs the child’s presence to maintain balance)
  12. intrusive behaviors such as constant phone calls when the child is at the other parent’s home
  13. lying (false allegations)
  14. brainwashing – rewriting the child’s past experiences in a way to create reality confusion – “Your father never enjoyed spending time with you… You were scared of her even when you were a baby.”
  15. drawing in other family members or friends in tribal warfare

 

Now, some of the behaviors (#5, 6 and 7) are understandable as coming from a normal parent who genuinely believes the other parent (rightly or wrongly) to be a danger to the child.  Given that children may easily dissociate negative characteristics, behaviors and memories, of people they love, the concerned parent may want to remind them, for example, that Daddy used to hit Mommy.  The parent may also have figured out the meaning of behaviors which make no sense to the child, and wants to convey that meaning to the child.  The parent may also be afraid to deal with the other adult herself, and since the child has to deal with him anyway, may prefer to send messages. However, most of the items on this list go far beyond the normal expressions of concern for a child’s welfare.

 

What is the message to the child living with this behavior?

  1. Your father/mother (the other parent) is evil and dangerous. S/he hurt me, and will hurt you if you try to have a relationship with him/her
  2. I am fragile and need to be looked after; I need you to listen to and validate my pain, which is caused by that evil person
  3. There is only one reality, the one I (and all those around me) know and understand, and you must accept that reality
  4. I can be evil and dangerous, and can hurt you if you threaten that reality

 

Stahl states that the “ dynamic causes the alienating parent to reject anyone who perceives things in a way that the alienating parent does not like…. Children are most susceptible to alienation when they are passive and dependent and feel a strong need to psychologically care for the alienating parent.”

 

Leona Kopetski (The Colorado Lawyer, 1998)  says that her Family and Children’s Evaluation Team evaluated both parents and all of the children in 600 cases from 1975 to 1995.  She says that the Team

has found alienating parents to have the following characteristics :

  1. A narcissistic or paranoid orientation to interactions and relationships with others, usually as the result of a personality disorder.
  2. Reliance on defenses against psychological pain that result in externalizing unwanted or unacceptable feelings, ideas, attitudes, and responsibility for misfortunes so that more painful internal conflict is transformed into less painful interpersonal conflict.
  3. Evidence of an abnormal grieving process such that there is a preponderance of anger and an absence of sadness in reaction to the loss of the marital partner.
  4. A family history in which there is an absence of awareness of normal ambivalence and conflict about parents, enmeshment, or failure to differentiate and emancipate from parents; of a family culture in which “splitting’ or externalizing is a prominent feature.

The Aligned Child

Over the years, I have seen numerous clinical examples of this process occurring.  Most of the cases are fairly mild – in the vast majority of divorce situations, one or both parents try to “lobby” the children to take their side in the parental conflict, and make statements to the children critical of the other parent.  Many parents have reported to me how their children seem upset and angry at them for a couple of days after spending time with the other parent, then settle down.  Perhaps this upset occurs because the child arrives at the parent’s home primed with expectations that this parent will be as the other parent believes, and looks for evidence to confirm that theory.  Disconfirming evidence interferes with the consistency of the child’s world-view.  With time in the home, the worldview is discarded and a different one adopted.

 

When a child has gone back and forth many times, he becomes adept at switching world-views and doesn’t go through the transitional period as severely.  But he may not have a whole picture, just two different world-views between which he switches fluently, like the Nazi doctors whose “doubling” allowed them to love their own children and torture those of other people.  Each world view is held by a different ego state.  Therapists doing Custody & Access evaluations should note that the view the child holds in a therapy session depends upon which parent brings him in or is picking him up.  You will not get a clear picture if the child is always brought by the same parent.

 

In the more extreme cases, where one or both parents engage in many of the behaviors on the list, children begin to align strongly with one parent’s view of the other, dissociating the reality of what the other parent is like, and substituting a reality which is at least in part artificial, based on what their chosen parent has told them.  Waldron and Joanis describe the following behaviors on the part of the child :

 

  1. Contradictions – the child’s own statements are contradictory, or they contradict factual history or the perceptions of unbiased individuals;
  2. Child has inappropriate and unnecessary information (e.g. “My dad had an affair while my mom was in the hospital having me,” or “My mom wanted me aborted.”)
  3. Child engages in character assault, including the use of globally negative descriptions for which the child has trouble coming up with specifics sufficient to justify them.
  4. Collusion and one-sided alliance with the alienating parent : This is often given away by the use of blended pronouns (e.g. “When my dad left us…,” or “We don’t have enough money to live on”)
  5. Child parrots themes of the alienating parent, even using the same words – the child’s identity becomes enmeshed with that of the alienating parent.
  6. Child reports on the target parent, even to professionals, the way a spy would.
  7. Child displays a sense of urgency and fragility : Everything seems to have life-and-death importance (e.g. “If you make me have dinner with him, I’ll run away or kill myself”).
  8. Child’s affiliations with the target parent’s associates and family change;
  9. Splitting : The child cannot come up with any positives about the target parent nor with any negatives about the alienating parent.
  10. Marked absence of complex thinking about relationships, and simplistic characterizations of the parents (e.g. “My mom is the homebody and my dad is the entertainer.”)
  11. Child demonstrates a feeling of restriction in permission to love or be loved.

What do these symptoms sound like?  An incomplete person – much like a young alter personality of a DID individual.  Children in any case have difficulty holding on to both or all sides of complexities in their environment.  This extreme pressure leads to letting go, at least temporarily, of one or more aspects of the complexity.  When working with young alter personalities in DIDs, I have to constantly orient them to present reality.  They tend to believe their present situation is as their past was – extremely dangerous.  They expect people to abuse them.  This is based on very flimsy evidence about the present, often without even knowledge of what happened in the past.  The protector parts tend to be angry and hateful, with minimal provocation, and to interpret small things as evidence that someone is out to harm them.  The pain-holder parts tend to be easily afraid or hurt, and their reactions trigger the protector parts to anger.  None of these parts believe it is possible to be cared for.

 

The difference here is that children who’ve been brainwashed to fear and hate a parent are basing their reactions not on past abuse but on hypnotic repetition and false interpretations of reality by the parent they have the most contact with.

Attachment(s)

What are the pressures that lead a child to dissociate the reality of what one of his or her parents is like, and substitute an alternative reality?  Attachment theory is important here.  If love from one parent is conditional upon rejection of that parent by the other parent, especially if the parent who is conditionally loving is the primary caregiver, the child needs to make a convincing show of rejecting the other parent in order not to be rejected himself.  Also, if the rejecting parent’s emotional well-being is dependent upon nurturing and validation from the child, the child needs to keep the parent alive and well by validating that parent’s reality.  To do this, the child either has to be a superb actor, or to cut off from awareness those aspects of reality which do not conform to that parent’s view of reality.  The younger the child, the easier it is for them to dissociate information incongruent with their parents’ views.

 

Deirdre Rand quotes JR Johnston’s research as follows :

Johnston found that 3 to 6-year-old children in high conflict divorce tended to shift their allegiances depending on which parent they were with.  This may contribute to children’s difficulty in transitioning from one home to another.  Normally, children in this age group have not yet learned to entertain two conflicting points of view.  As a result, when the child is told in the mother’s home that the father does not provide enough money, the child will temporarily align with the mother.  The child will shift allegiance to father when told in his home that mother just wastes the money.

 

Johnston found that 28 to 43% of the 9- to 12-year-olds were in what she termed “strong alignments,” characterized by consistent rejection and denigration of the other parent.  Children tended to make stronger alliances with the more emotionally dysfunctional parent, who was more likely to be the mother.  In Impasses of Divorce, Johnston described children in strong alignments as forfeiting their childhood by merging psychologically with a parent who was raging, paranoid, or sullenly depressed.  Factors within the child which contributed to the formation of strong alignments were found to be

 

  1. need to protect a parent who was decompensating, depressed, panicky, or needy;
  2. need to avoid the wrath or rejection of a powerful, dominant parent (often the custodial parent on whom the child was dependent); and
  3. need to hold onto the parent the child was most afraid of losing, for example, a parent who was too self-absorbed or who was only casually involved with the child.

 

Johnston and Roseby opined, “Rather than seeing this syndrome as being induced in the child by an alienating parent, as Gardner does, we propose that these ‘unholy alliances’ are a later manifestation of the failed separation-individuation process in especially vulnerable children who have been exposed to disturbed family relationships during their early years.” These authors hypothesize that the more extreme forms of parent alienation in early adolescence have their roots in failed separation-individuation from the alienating parent during the earliest years of the child’s life.“

 

This description sounds as if the very young children are able to switch between two different realities, in the homes of two parents, but as they get older they attempt to achieve cognitive consistency by dissociating one of the two realities.  And the one they dissociate is that of the kinder and safer parent, because they need to accept the reality of the dangerous parent in order to be safe with him or her.  The ego state for dealing with the dangerous parent takes precedence over that for dealing with the safer parent.

 

In the Spouse Abuse article, I describe the batterer’s partner’s situation as follows :

 

A key to understanding the dissociative nature of the cycle may be the situation outside the home, where the battering spouse is consistently Dr. Jekyll.–charming, pleasant, and thoughtful.  The extreme contrast between the person the partner sees outside the home and the person who appears in the home is an important factor in enabling the dissociative process in the batterer’s spouse.  Even if she may have initially been an emotionally integrated person, the repetitive nature of the phases causes her to split her memories into state-dependent chains.  The abused spouse is intermittently in a terrifying environment which requires her to comply with someone who has power over her to avoid further physical harm. She responds by developing different personae, each characterized by a different primary emotion and a different belief system.

 

The situation outside the home is in many ways the primary reality for an adult, since it is a consensus reality.  But for a young child the consensus reality is that established in the primary place the child spends his time.

 

Stahl says that

 

“As the level of conflict between parents increases and as children are caught in the middle of these conflicts, the child’s level of anxiety and vulnerability increases.  For many of these children, an alignment with a parent helps take them out of the middle and reduces their anxiety and vulnerability…. When the child’s anxiety is driving the split, the intensity and severity of the child’s feelings may be greater than the intensity of the alienating parent’s behaviors.”

 

Kopetski writes about anxious attachment as being crucial in parental alienation :

 

“In a desperate attempt to maintain a relationship in the only ways possible (identification and alliance) with the parent who is, at the end of the alienation process, the only parent from a psychological and sometimes physical point of view, the child will mirror the personality and the distorted perceptions of the alienating parent.  The blame for anxiety consequent to the insecurity of attachments will be externalized and attributed to the other parent.”

 

Kopetski says that

 

“Many alienated children develop symptoms of anxious attachment or separation anxiety when they are long past the age where separation anxiety is normal.  The most common symptoms in young children are unusual distress during transitions from one parent to the other, sleep disturbances, regressions in achievement of regulation of bodily functions, and failure to achieve expected levels of impulse control.  In elementary school age children, disorganization, inability to attend to school work with resultant lowered grades, social isolation and moodiness are often seen.  Teenagers often emancipate prematurely from adult control, becoming defiant and rigid.

 

Children need to develop the function of reality testing, not just about their parents, but also about the world in general.  It is essential that they learn not to exclude important information just because it makes them uncomfortable or conflicted.  It is also important that they learn to correct misunderstandings and change conclusions with new information…. Alienated children tend to become fixed and rigid in their opinions and ideas.  They will obviously and actively reject any information that does not confirm their ideas.  Too often, their ideas are strongly influenced by feelings, which they often cannot distinguish from facts without help.  Having little sense of time (as most people do not during a crisis), they believe that the feelings of today will last forever.

 

Waldron and Joanis state

 

“In some instances, the alienating parent’s efforts at alienating the child will be so ruthless, sophisticated, pervasive, and persistent, playing heavily on the loyalties, fears, and even trust of the child, that the child’s ability to maintain an independent relationship with the target parent will slowly be crushed.  If the child continues to see the target parent in these cases, the child will often display a split identity (clinically referred to as vertical splitting).  That is, when with the alienating parent, the child will appear thoroughly rejecting the target parent, but when with the target parent, he or she will display affection, attachment, interest, fun, and freedom from the oppressive alignment with the alienating parent.”

 

A therapist wrote to me as follows :

 

Once I was so sure that a father was the most appropriate parent to have custody of his 7-year-old daughter, I asked the judge to confirm my position with a second evaluation.  Turns out the mother took the child to another psychologist where the child presented with a completely different personality who was afraid to be around her father…. In another case I worked with a teenager who had moved here with her mother to get away from an abusive father.  Although the girl had said she didn’t want to be around her father, the judge ordered that she spend every school holiday with him.  As a way of coping, she had developed an alter for Mommy and one for Daddy.  She was quite insightful and talked about the switching process that occurred on the plane in her trips back and forth.“

 

Waldron and Joanis go on to say

 

“The effect of Parental Alienation Syndrome on the child is never benign; it is malevolent and intense.  The degree of severity will depend on the extent of the brainwashing, the amount of time the child spends enmeshed with the Alienating Parent, the age of the child, the number of healthy support people in the child’s life, and the degree to which the child “believes” the delusion  (In many cases of Parental Alienation Syndrome, the child will exhibit all the signs of absolute rejection of the Target Parent, but in private will disclose that the rejection is just an act.).

 

The child’s internal psychological and emotional organization becomes centered around the rejection of the Target Parent.  The child develops identity and self-concept through a process of identification with both parents, a process that begins very early in the child’s life.  The rejection of the hated parent becomes an internalized rejection and leads, over time, to self-loathing fears of rejection, depression, and often suicidal ideation.  These developments often are a surprise to the Alienating Parent and others, since at the time of the alienation, the child will often look mature, assertive, and confident…. The child is also internalizing the rage of the Alienating Parent as part of the self-concept, which often combines with intense guilt over the harm done to the Target Parent to become chronic feeling states.  Sadness and longing often accompany these other feelings.  When the Parental Alienation Syndrome includes grave distortions of reality, the child’s reality-testing abilities become compromised, and he or she has permission to distort other aspects of life.

 

Often, the enmeshment with Alienating Parent inhibits the development of the child in other spheres of functioning.  For example, the child may become socially withdrawn, regress in social situations, or be seen by others as immature.  Often these won’t show up until the child reaches the final stages of individuation in early adulthood.  A dominant emotion for the child is loss, though this may not show up right way.”

 

Now some of this appears to be theory, based on the idea that certain emotions are hidden and appear later.  This makes sense if you see the child as dissociating the emotions she or he isn’t permitted to have during his time with the alienating parent.  The social withdrawal may be an attempt to prevent his world-view from being disconfirmed.

The Dissociated Parent versus the Disliked Parent

Stahl states that alienated parents are of two types :

  1. Those who previously had a healthy relationship with the child, but are now being shut out of the child’s life. Passive, nurturing, and sensitive.
  2. Those who claim that alienation is the problem, but are defensive, avoidant of relationships, externalize blame, have difficulty seeing their own role in problems with the children, are controlling and used to having things their own way, lack empathy. In other words, the child doesn’t like them because they aren’t likable.

 

Stahl says :

Some children tell very moving stories of how they have not liked or have been fearful of the alienated parent for a long time.  They can give specific details of abuse, angry behavior, etc. prior to separation.  These children often feel relieved when their parents divorce because they are now free of those problems.  The differential understanding will come from the child’s clear account of inappropriate behavior, detachment in the relationship and a convincing sense of real problems (as opposed to the moral indignation of the alienated child).

 

When we listen to these children in those cases where the child is detached from the alienated parent, there is little evidence that these children are put in the middle by the alienating parent.  Rather, there is a sadness to these children who wish (or may have wished in the past) for a different quality to the relationship with the alienated parent.  For many of these children, they have observed significant spousal abuse during the marriage or have observed one parent being controlling and hostile to the other parent.  It is the sadness and ambivalence about the lack of a relationship that is one of the key differential indicators that these children, while certainly aligned with one parent, are not being alienated.

 

(also) Many children seem to be aligned with one parent primarily because of shared interests or a goodness of fit in the personality dynamics with one parent

 

Children who have rejected a parent because of alienation by the other parent and blurring of boundaries between parent and child are different from those who reject a parent because that parent does not provide what they need.  The latter group are sad and ambivalent about the lack of a relationship rather than expressing hate towards the alienated parent.

Long-Term Effects on Children

Not long after Jane left her husband, she took a trip with a female friend and both of their children.  Her youngest son fought constantly with the friend’s youngest daughter, showing many of the same behaviors her husband had shown towards her.  When he reached adolescence, this boy, who had been in joint custody since she left her husband when he was five, began to verbally abuse her in the same way his father had.

“At five he suggested that our dad not live with us.  And after I left his dad, he told me that he’d been very afraid that one day his dad would knock me unconscious or kill me. But he has forgotten all that now. He doesn’t even believe that spouse abuse happened. I hear him use words in attacking me that are identical with words his father used — words that aren’t normal for a 15-year-old boy to use. I know his father has spent years brainwashing him to see things his way. And my son has clearly dissociated the frightening things that happened, when the loving daddy who was his caregiver became the ogre.”

 

This case was not unique.  Another therapist wrote of having a client whose parents occasionally let him break up their regular late night fights where they both bandied about threats to leave each other.  The child developed a fear of going to sleep because he might miss an opportunity to “save” their marriage.  Later, he forgot why he was afraid to go to sleep, but just knew he felt terribly anxious when it was time to go to bed.  He developed rituals to try and soothe himself at night but found he would often lie awake until all was quiet in the house.  Even after his parents’ divorce he often needed to sleep in the same room as his parent in order to go to sleep.  Talking over these great fears of childhood in his therapy and the therapist assuring him it wasn’t possible for him to keep them together would always help him feel better for a few days, usually until one of his parents would start to berate or to criticize the other, then the rituals would kick in again.  The therapist regularly instructed the parents not to do this, but even in divorce they found it easy to run their partner down, even when it caused obvious stress and anxiety in the child.

 

One thing notable in this case is the way in which the child forgot the initial reason for his inability to sleep.  It seemed he had transmuted his response into a general world view that bad things happened at night, and he needed to be vigilant and respond to the danger, whatever it was.  We see this frequently in survivors of childhood trauma – or even with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.  The person responds with emotion to a trigger which has some resemblance to a past trauma, without any conscious awareness of the connection to the trauma.

Therapeutic Treatment of the Child

I began a discussion on the Dissociative Disorders Discussion List in December 1999.  about this topic.  Although I am not permitted to quote directly from the discussion, I should like to thank the members of the list at that time for their important contributions to the concepts in this paper.  Some of the ideas I express in the following section come from list members.

 

A child living with a parent who hates his other parent may not have the internal strength to really allow himself to know everything he knows on some level.  So he must flipflop allegiances between mother and father.    For the child to reduce his dissociation, and understand what is really going on in his life, he needs to allow himself to feel both sides, to understand the intensity of his pulls, and to recognize the extreme danger he has perceived in allowing himself to really feel or really know.  The risk is the loss of security as he senses that the love of one parent is contingent on rejection of the other parent.  Yet, in order to heal, he has to face his parent’s inadequacy in having put him in this terrible dilemma.  He has to know what he hates about both, what he loves about both, and be himself, liberated from the dissociative alliances.

 

A therapist might say to him “Describe to me how scary it would feel to love them both at the same time.”  It would be important not to let him off the hook about the things he states he does not know or remember about the hated parent.  He could be given historical information about each parent, and encouraged to critically evaluate this information, so that he could be freed of the terrible pulls on him.

 

These children suffer from dissociation, even if they don’t qualify for our present categories of DID or even DDNOS.  They are unable to experience one important part of their lives as it is.  We need to encourage these children, and other people experiencing separation of the parts of their emotional lives and attachments, to experience the conflicted aspects of their emotional life simultaneously, rather than in a dissociated sequence.

 

A 25-year-old client of mine lives with her parents, although her mother touched her sexually throughout her adolescent years.  She took a long time to disclose this or to recognize it as abuse.  Now she constantly takes the opposite side to me in relation to her mother.  She has told me her mother abused her, and I can listen to her talk about this.  I can also listen to her talking about how judgmental her mother is.  But if I, the therapist, mention her mother having abused her or being judgmental, she rushes in to defend her mother.  This young woman has also spoken of her mother being loving and understanding when she is suicidal.  But if I, the therapist, mention her mother being supportive, she expresses rage against her mother.  She is unable to hold both sides of the conflict within herself, so externalizes whichever side she is not currently identified with into me.  I have to be very careful to place the locus of the contradictions back in her.

 

Sometimes, children “caught in the middle” feel that finding their own self essence does not put them in danger of losing their love objects.  This may or may not be true.  As these children grow into adolescence and adulthood, they need to grieve and move beyond these losses in order to be whole.  The parents of these children need help to grasp that their individual and interactive use of their child as an object for their unconscious pathological needs is what delays or disrupts the child’s developing autonomy, and can set into motion dissociative coping mechanisms, that in its extreme form, results in a fragmented sense of self.  Unfortunately, many parents who put their children into this kind of a bind are unable or unwilling to see what they are doing.

 

Onno Van der Hart has described a dissociative way of life as a “retraction of the field of personal consciousness.’ A person who is only able to experience one aspect of their life at a time needs assistance to move from “either/or” to “and/and.”   Dissociation is by no means restricted to individuals with DID.  Many people operate on “one cylinder,” without access to much of the information they take in with their senses.  Anyone who has lived with complex attachment dilemmas, including in particular the children of warring parents, has a restricted field of personal consciousness, and needs to expand it.

 

In my article on spousal abuse I spoke about what the abused partner needs :

 

A major task in treatment is for the battered woman to become able to remember the abuse when her spouse is being supportive, and the supportiveness when he is abusing.  To accomplish this, the following interventions have proved helpful:

 

  1. Have the abuse victim keep a journal, instructing her to divide it into different sections that correspond with the different phases of the abuse cycle. Have her journal each day in the appropriate section throughout the phases of the relationship.  Then have her read material daily from the sections which contain material from phases which are different from the one she is currently experiencing.  The journal is also helpful in helping the patient access material for use in therapy.
  2. After the abused spouse is able to access images from phases other than the one she is currently in, hypnotically interweave images from each phase of the relationship.
  3. Use Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with images from the different phases, then overlay the images and have the spouse see both at once.

 

A young DID client of mine was brought up by an abusive grandmother who was keeping her “safe” from her drug-addicted biker mother.  She has recently been making peace with her grandmother, whom she calls “Mom,” but she does not want to do this by restricting her awareness of the other side of “Mom.”  She recently brought me a list of all her grandmother’s abuses, and asked me to read this list solemnly, while all alters in her system listened.  What a brave way of confronting the reality from which most of her has been dissociated most of her life.

 

All of us in our family lives are faced with conflicting emotions about those people who are close to us.  It is important that we become able to move from sometimes loving them and sometimes hating them to becoming aware of loving and hating them at the same time.  There are different degrees of dissociation in this process :

  1. When I feel love for someone I don’t know that I sometimes hate them, and can’t remember their horrible characteristics;
  2. When I feel love for someone I’m aware that I sometimes hate them, though I don’t know exactly why;
  3. When I feel love for someone I’m aware that they have flaws, and know what those flaws are and that they sometimes annoy me.
  4. I’m able to love someone and feel angry at them at the same time.

 

A big reason why anger and hatred can do so much damage is because they frequently exist in dissociated ego states.  A person feeling anger at someone else isn’t at that moment aware of the positive characteristics of that person, and of how important that person is to them.  This means that they can say and do destructive things which they would not be able to do if their anger was not dissociated from the rest of their being.  When I work with DIDs who have been perpetrators, it is the new connection of the perpetrator alters with the victim alters and the more objective “knowledge alters” that  makes the perpetrator parts unable to continue to perpetrate.  This same connection needs to be fostered in non-DID people who suffer from less severe dissociative conditions which can nevertheless make family life unliveable.

 

A child being forced to spend time with the abusive parent may well develop a dissociative disorder.  A therapist wrote to me as follows : “Once I was so sure that a father was the most appropriate parent to have custody of his 7-year-old daughter, I asked the judge to confirm my position with a second evaluation.  Turns out the mother took the child to another psychologist where the child presented with a completely different personality who was afraid to be around her father.  In another case I worked with a teenager who had moved here with her mother to get away from an abusive father.  Although the girl had said she didn’t want to be around her father, the judge ordered that she spend every school holiday with him.  As a way of coping, she had developed an alter for Mommy and one for Daddy.  She was quite insightful and talked about the switching process that occurred on the plane in her trips back and forth.”

References

Johnston J.R. & Roseby, V: In the Name of the Child: A Developmental Approach to

Understanding and Helping Children of Conflicted and Violent Divorce.  New York: Free Press, 1997.

Kopetski, Leona M.  Identifying Cases of Parent Alienation Syndrome – Part II.  The

Colorado Lawyer, 27 (3), March 1998, 63-66.

Miller, Alison.  The Dissociative Dance of Spouse Abuse, Treating Abuse Today, 8(3),

May/June 1998, 9-18.

Rand, Deirdre Conway.  The Spectrum of Parental Alienation Syndrome (Part II).

American Journal of Forensic Psychology, 15(4), 1997.

Stahl, Philip M.  Alienation and Alignment of Children.  California Psychologist, 32(3),

March 1999, 23ff.

Waldron, Kenneth H. & Joanis, David E.  Understanding and Collaboratively Treating

Parental Alienation Syndrome.  American Journal of Family Law, 10, 1996, 121-133.

http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/pas (website with articles on Parental Alienation Syndrome)

Abstract

This study systematically reviewed  available research and  literature (from the year 1992-2006) on the etiology, description, biographical variables related to, and the treatment of dissociative amnesia related to traumas, such as war, abuse, and natural disasters. Quantitative and qualitative studies were screened and utilized in this review of literature. More specifically, text-books, journal articles, and electronic databases were utilized to conduct this systematic review. The strategy that the reviewer used to organize, synthesize, and review the data was an integrative, and systematic review (Davies & Crombie, 2001). Systematic review is a way of summarising research evidence already available and relies on a scientific design. The findings indicated that the etiology of dissociative amnesia appears to be related to extreme stress, especially if the individual is experiencing trauma for the second time. The results further indicated that men were more likely to dissociate than women and children relating to war traumas, as they are more directly involved. Children and women are more likely to dissociate relating to abuse traumas, as they were more prone to be abused. In addition, children dissociate more freely than adults. Individuals from a lower socio-economic status are more likely to dissociate because they experience the event as more traumatic in the light thereof that they are more vulnerable and experience a lesser degree of security. Treatments for dissociative amnesia include cognitive therapy; medication; hypnosis and hospitalisation.

Background Information

Dissociative amnesia is the “inability to recall important personal information, usually of a traumatic or stressful nature, that is too extensive to be explained by ordinary forgetfulness” (Sharon, 2005, p.1). Dissociative amnesia was formerly known as psychogenic amnesia. This type of disorder is different to simple amnesia, with the fact that the memories are still present, only they are deep within the mind of the individual, and cannot be recalled. However, these memories may surface if “triggered” by the individual’s environment, or they might return on their own (The Cleveland Clinic, 2006). There are five different types of memory loss that has been identified within individuals with dissociative amnesia. These types include localized amnesia, which is when an individual cannot remember certain periods of time or events. Generalized amnesia is when an individual has lost memory of everything, including their identity. Continuous amnesia includes the individual having no memory of events up to the present time, as well as the present time. Systematized amnesia takes place when the individual has lost their memory for particular categories of information (Sharon, 2005), and lastly, selective amnesia, which is when the individual can remember some of the events that has taken place during a limited period of time, but not all of the events (The Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders, 2006). Dissociative amnesia is caused by a number of factors, one of which is traumatic events. These include war, abuse, rape, accidents, head injuries, and natural disasters. Dissociative amnesia is also caused by life stressors, such as abandonment, financial worries, death of a loved one, or marriage, and it is also caused by internal conflict, such as guilt, criminal offences, and interpersonal difficulties (The Merck Manual, 2006). Dissociative amnesia can also be caused by epilepsy. Trauma is, however, one of the most common causes of dissociative amnesia, and war, abuse, and natural disasters are the most common causes of this disorder relating to trauma. Dissociative amnesia is more likely to take place if these traumas are severe, chronic, occur in combination, and associated with posttraumatic stress (Briere, 2006).

Primary Aim

The primary aim of this study is to explore and describe dissociative amnesia related to war, abuse, and natural disaster traumas.

The objectives for this study:

  1. To explore and describe dissociative amnesia in terms of etiology related to trauma.
  2. To explore and describe dissociative amnesia in terms of symptoms related to trauma.
  3. To explore and describe dissociative amnesia in terms of biographical variables related to trauma.
  4. To explore and describe dissociative amnesia in terms of treatment related to trauma.

Research Methodology

The methodology that the reviewer used is a systematic review. Systematic reviews find all relevant studies, which may be published or unpublished, assess each study, synthesise the findings in an unbiased way, and present a balanced and impartial summary of the findings, taking consideration to any flaws in the evidence (Davies & Crombie, 2001). Systematic review is a way of summarising research evidence already available, and relies on a scientific design, therefore becoming more comprehensive, reliable, and minimizes the chance of bias. This can be done by the use of a grid. Not all published systematic reviews have been produced with extreme care. However, therefore the findings may, at times, mislead, and as a result, a series of questions can uncover deficiencies of reports (Davies & Crombie, 2001). The advantages of systematic reviews include reducing the quantity of data, assessing the consistency of relationships, explain data inconsistencies and conflicts, reduce bias, make efficient use of existing data, and may also be a valuable source for decision makers. Many studies give confusing, unclear, or contradictory results. However, a systematic review can effectively eliminate useless or incorrect information, and present a more consistent, clearer picture (Davies & Crombie, 2001). The disadvantages of systematic reviews include an expensive budget, due to it developing over a long period, and it also involves a large amount of literature to be consulted. Systematic reviews may be conducted poorly and present false information, topics may not be well defined, and the criteria for inclusion of studies may not be clearly described, and fairly applied (Davies & Crombie, 2001).

Target Population/Source

The target population for the study is all available data relevant to the research topic. The data that the researcher sampled included scholarly journals, books, and computerized databases. However, theses and dissertations were excluded due to the vast number of these studies present and the limited amount of time the researcher had to compose this study. The researcher used both qualitative and quantitative studies so as not to limit the study, and the researcher also used both national and international search strategies, due to the limited amount of studies done in South Africa. The data needed for this review was located by using the following sources and databases:

  • OPAC (Online Public Access Catalogue): A computerized catalogue of the books, serials, videos, theses, audio cassettes and CD-ROMS owned by the Nelson Mandela Metropolitan University .
  • EBSCHOHOST: An on-line reference system offering easy access to a wide variety of databases, of which the reviewer used PsycInfo, Academic Search Premier, MEDLINE, MasterFile Premier, and Educational Resource Information Centre (ERIC).
  • OCLC (On-line Computer Library Centre, Inc.): A web system that the reviewer used to search many on-line databases for books, articles, and reference information.
  • SABINET: Provides access to bibliographic information on books, periodicals, and government publications in various databases.
  • GALENET INFOTRAC: InfoTrac OneFile is part of this database and covers news and periodical articles on a wide range of topics.
  • NISCDISCOVER: Contains journal articles.
  • SACat: Contains bibliographic information on books, periodicals, audiovisual items, and other information resources kept in South African libraries.

Procedure

There are seven steps in the systematic review procedure. These include:

  1. Define and Refine a Topic
  2. Designing a Search
  3. Locating Reports
  4. Searching the Literature
  5. Assessing the Studies
  6. Combining the Results
  7. Placing the Findings in Context

Data Analysis

Data synthesis includes collating and summarising the results of the included studies, and synthesis can be descriptive, (non-quantitative) (Kitchenham, 2004). It can be possible to complement a descriptive synthesis with a quantitative summary, and by using statistical techniques, a quantitative synthesis can be obtained, and referred to as “meta-analysis” (Kitchenham, 2004). The reviewers synthesized and combined the results after the studies were selected for inclusion, and it was determined if there were any differences or discrepancies in the studies. The reviewers also noted the outcomes of different studies, attempted to classify each study, searched for flaws in research designs, noted the samples used and limitations, and designed a grid for each article meeting the inclusion criteria. The grid enabled the reviewers to question each article, and allow for a more systematic, organized, and objective view. An integrative review is the strategy the reviewer used, and this strategy summarized what is known at this point, and assessed all the available information.

Results and Findings

The results of the review are classified according to the etiology, the symptoms, the biographical variables, and the treatment of dissociative amnesia related to war, abuse and natural disaster trauma. The table below shows the types of trauma resulting in dissociative amnesia.

 

Table 1: Prevalence of Amnesia for different traumas: Average across studies.

Studies Amnesia % Range
Source N Any*
Car accident 1 8% 8
Law enforcement 1 19% 19
Disaster 4 30% 3-57
Combat 2 26% 14-39
Physical abuse 6 26% 21-40
Rape (as adult) 1 23% 23

*Full or partial

A review of 50 studies revealed that amnesia tends to increase with severity of the trauma, and it is particularly high in victims of disaster, sex crimes and combat. The range presented in the Table refers to the range of cases that amnesia was present. The literature in the review states the following relating to war, soldiers may dissociate themselves to avoid experiencing the trauma in a conscious state. It also concludes that dissociative amnesia is seen as a defence reaction to stress, and factors responsible for the trauma include soldiers witnessing their fellow soldiers been killed, wounded, hearing their cries while being wounded, witnessing decomposing bodies, not being able to help, being wounded themselves, tortured, sexually abused, or have killed (Spiric & Knezevic, 2004). According to Dallam (2005), scientific evidence shows that it is not rare for traumatized individuals to experience a delayed recall for the trauma. Evidence of amnesia in war veterans can be found in the literature on World War 1 and World War II, and displayed in Tables 2 and 3.

 

Table 2: Frequency of cases showing an amnesic syndrome in a thousand serial admissions to a military hospital.

Cases admitted Amnesia present Frequency of cases presented with amnesia
Severe stress 251 87 35%
Moderate stress 155 20 13%
Trifling stress 594 37 6%
Total 1000 144 14%

Symptoms included in the literature review state that a sudden and unexpected loss of memory and personal information is caused by war traumas. An individual may also appear confused, and suffer from anxiety or depression (The Cleveland Clinic, 2006). According to the literature in the review, biographical variables must be considered when a traumatic event occurs. These can include the age groups affected, cultural and ethnic representation, socio-economic status, individuals with serious and persistent mental illness, and human service and disaster relief workers (Tasman, date unknown). This review focuses on age, gender, culture, and socio-economic status of the individuals concerned. According to a study done in the period between January 2001 and June 2003 by Spiric and Knezevic, of which 621 individuals were victims of torture, and 437 were refugees or internally displaced individuals with psychotic problems related to war experience, or family members of torture victims, the following was concluded:

 

Table 3: Gender structure

Tortured Non-tortured Total
n                          % n                         % n                         %
Male 528                  85.0 258                  59.0 786                  74.3
Female 93                    15.0 179                  41.0 272                  25.7
Total 621 437 1058

Gender structure was different in relation to experience of torture and captivity. There were significantly more men in the total number of clients, mainly due to their dominance in the group of torture victims.

 

Table 4: Age of clients (n=784)

Tortured

n=472

Non-tortured n=312 t-test
Age 48.25±12.28 41.82±13.83 t=6.82*

Values are given as: mean value±  standard deviation; p<0.01 Clients with torture experience were significantly older. From these two tables, it is therefore evident that more men than women experienced dissociative amnesia during combat, as men dominated the group of war victims. It is also evident that individuals were significantly older due to veterans directly experiencing the traumas. The three elements of war trauma include combat experience, witnessing abusive violence, and participation in abusive violence. From a sample of 350 Vietnam veterans, it is concluded that each of these elements affects the psychological states of veterans in significantly different ways, for example, exposure to abusive violence is found to have a different effect for Black and White veterans (JSTOR, 2006). Qualitative material from transcripts is used to explore the different patterns of findings for these groups, as these findings emphasize the importance of specifying what constitutes “the experience” when attempting to link traumatic experiences to psychological patterns (JSTOR, 2006).Culture and socio-economic variables are interrelated. Cultures with a low socio-economic are more likely to develop dissociative amnesia, as they experience the events as more traumatic as they do not have a high sense of security, are vulnerable, and may not have strong support systems (Tasman, date unknown).The literature in the review states that treatment for dissociative amnesia relating to war victims include psychotherapy, cognitive therapy, medication, family therapy, and creative therapy (The Cleveland Clinic, 2006). Much of the literature researched recommended hypnosis as the best treatment for war victims. Hospitalisation can also serve as a treatment for severe cases. According to the literature in the review, the etiology of dissociative amnesia relating to child abuse results from rape, incest and physical abuse. It is a way of coping regarding stressful experiences (Pearson, 1997). There are also certain factors which result in dissociative amnesia, namely, the nature and frequency of the traumatic event as well as the age of the victim, repetitive traumas, traumatic experiences deliberately caused by human beings, children dissociate more freely than adults especially when they are coerced into silence about repetitive, deliberate trauma, and lastly, any other factor that contributes to memory disturbances (Dallam, 2005). There are also seven factors which predict amnesia, namely, abuse by the caregiver, explicit threats demanding silence, alternative realities in environment, isolation during abuse, young at age of abuse, alternative reality-defining statements by caregiver, and lack of discussion about abuse (Dallam, 2005). Several studies on incest was researched, and it was reported that 41 % of the sample experienced dissociative amnesia, 33% de-realization, and 21% out-of-body experiences. Another study found that 61% of victims exhibited dissociative symptoms (Pearson, 1997). Therefore, these studies show that dissociative amnesia is not a rare phenomenon. A study was done in order to investigate the relationship between self-reported childhood abuse and dissociative symptoms and amnesia, as well as the presence or absence of corroboration of recovered memories of childhood abuse. The participants included 90 female patients who were admitted to a unit for specializing in the treatment of trauma-related disorders (Chu, Frey, Ganzel & Matthews, 1999).

 

Table 5: Amnesia for childhood abuse in relation to Dissociative Experiences Scale scores for 90 women treated in an inpatient unit for posttraumatic and dissociative disorders.

No amnesia Partial amnesia Total  amnesia Total group
Score Score Score Score
Type of childhood abuse N    Mean   SD N     Mean  SD N    Mean   SD N     Mean  SD
Physical abuse 31   30.2   17.1 24    42.0  22.3 20   50.9  19.8 75   39.6   21.3
Sexual abuse 30   29.5   17.6 19    48.8  18.8 25    42.1  23.1 74   38.9   21.5
Witness to abuse 34   29.6   17.3 17    43.1  22.8 13    61.9  16.4 64   40.6   22.5

From Table 5, it can be concluded that the majority of the participants reported a high level of childhood abuse experiences, as 75 (83%) reported physical abuse, 74 (82%) reported sexual abuse, and 64 (71%) reported witnessing abuse. Participants reporting any kind of abuse also reported a substantial rate of both partial and complete/total amnesia.

 

Table 6: Amnesia for childhood abuse in relation to age at onset of abuse for 90 women in an outpatient unit for posttraumatic and dissociative disorders.

No amnesia Partial amnesia Complete amnesia
Age (years) Age (years) Age (years)
Type of childhood abuse N          Mean      SD N         Mean       SD N         Mean       SD
Physical abuse 31          6.6        4.1 24         4.7         2.9 20          3.8        2.8
Sexual abuse 30          9.1        3.6 19         4.9         3.2 25          4.3        3.1
Witness to abuse 34          6.5        3.8 17         4.8         2.7 13          6.2        3.1

From Table 6, it can be concluded that the mean age of onset of physical abuse, sexual abuse and witnessing abuse was generally early in childhood, before adolescence. Earlier age of onset was correlated with a higher degree of amnesia for physical abuse and sexual abuse, but showed only a trend for witnessing abuse.

 

Table 7: Dissociative Experiences Scale scores in relation to frequency of childhood abuse for 90 women treated in an inpatient unit for posttraumatic and dissociative disorders.

No episodes 1-9 episodes 10-100 episodes More than 100 episodes
Score Score Score Score
Type of childhood abuse N    Mean   SD N     Mean  SD N     Mean  SD N    Mean   SD
Physical abuse 11   30.3   27.9 12    34.0  16.6 25   36.5   17.2 34   42.8   25.1
Sexual abuse 11   26.7   30.2 11    32.3  18.0 28    34.5  17.3 31   47.8   21.7
Witness to abuse 18   28.3   19.6 12    39.5  21.3 25    41.5  20.9 26   39.7   25.1

From Table 7, it can be concluded that the analysis of mean Dissociative Experiences Scale scores in relation to frequency of childhood abuse showed a clear trend of higher scores with more frequent episodes of abuse, although not all differences were statistically significant. Only participants with very frequent sexual abuse (more that 100 episodes) had significantly higher levels of dissociation than participants with infrequent or no abuse (fewer than 10 episodes).Culture and socio-economic variables are once again interlinked, as individuals with a higher socio-economic status are more easily able to cope with traumatic experiences as they have many resources, and supportive families. Language can act as a barrier in therapy regarding different cultures, therefore, a translator must be easily available (Tasman, date unknown).The literature in the review states that treatment for dissociative amnesia related to abuse traumas include psychodynamic or cognitive therapy, group therapy, expressive therapy, family therapy, psychoeducation, and hospitalisation. The Empowerment Model encourages the highest level of functioning after treatment (Turkus, 1992). Parents of dissociative children may receive guidelines from their therapist on how to manage their children (Waters, 1996). The etiology of dissociative amnesia relating to natural disasters is the same as for war and abuse. It can occur during or after the trauma as it is a way of escaping from experiencing the traumatic event, and it can occur if the event is unexpected, the individual is unprepared, and if there is nothing that the individual can do to stop it form taking place (Jaffe, Segal & Dumke, 2006).Research was performed on a non-selective literature search for examples of studies between 1960 and 1999 where investigators performed psychological assessments on groups of survivors of specific, historically documented events (Pope, Olivia & Hudson, 2002).The symptoms of dissociative amnesia relating to natural disasters include physical, emotional and cognitive effects on the individual, and additional symptoms include flashbacks and re-experiencing the event (Jaffe, Segal & Dumke, 2006). The literature in the review states that dissociative amnesia can happen in any age group, however, it is more common among young adults, due to the fact that if the traumatic experience occurred during childhood, the memories may only be later recalled in adulthood (The Merck Manual, 2006). Dissociative amnesia is also more common among females. However, it can take place in both males and females. Some individuals may be more prone to develop this disorder (The Merck Manual, 2006). Dissociative amnesia can be a common and accepted expression of cultural activities or religious experiences in many cross-cultural societies. Therefore, it should not be diagnosed as pathology inherently, but should first be evaluated. Culture groups with a low socio-economic status are once again more likely to suffer from dissociative amnesia. According to the literature in the review, if a natural disaster occurs, these individuals see the event as more traumatic as their homes may not be insured, and they may witness destruction to all of their belongings (Tasman, date unknown).The literature in the review states that treatment for dissociative amnesia related to natural disaster traumas include psychotherapy, cognitive therapy, medication, family therapy, creative therapy, hypnosis and hospitalisation (The Cleveland Clinic, 2006)

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Intimate Partner Violence: A Dissociative Family Dance

As part of Acknowledging Domestic Violence Awareness Month Alison Miller writes about dissociative processes in Intimate partner violence.

 

During the years when I worked primarily with families, I frequently encountered intimate partner violence (IPV). I remember a man who told me he had watched himself chase his wife around a tree with an axe, just as he had watched his father do to his mother; and a woman from a traditional oriental family in which displays of emotions were strictly forbidden, who came to therapy because she was abusing her husband in uncontrollable rage outbursts. These were spouse abusers who wanted help and did not understand their own behavior when they were in altered states.

 

My understanding was helped by Lenore Walker’s The Battered Woman (1979), which traces a repetitive cycle of buildup/criticism of the partner, discharge of rage, and then contrition or self-justification on the part of abusive men.

The abuser

I recently researched developments in the field for my paper, “Dissociation in families experiencing intimate partner violence,” in the special issue of JTD on victim-perpetrator relationships. There are positive developments: Stark (2007) coined the term “coercive control” and aptly identified control and coercion rather than physical abuse as the central feature of IPV. Other researchers distinguish between types of spouse abusers. Jacobson & Gottman (1998) describe “pit bulls” (who are physiologically aroused as they verbally lash out) versus “cobras” (who are physiologically calm as they appear to lose control, and violent outside the home as well as inside it.) However, I was shocked to see that several recent writers in the field, including Stark, have come primarily from the perspective that male violence towards their female partners is simply an attempt to reinstate threatened male privilege. These writers do not address the question of whether or not some abusers have a cycle, or behave very differently at different times.

 

However, in Rethinking Domestic Violence (2006) Dutton states that “neither social learning theory, nor feminist theory, nor the psychiatric labels we have seen so far, can account for these syndromes of rising and falling tensions and shifting phases of emotion, perspective, and attitude. A deeper, more pervasive form of personality disturbance seems to be at work.” (p. 68)

 

In The Abusive Personality (2007), Dutton states that “The splitting off of unacceptable rage leads to dissociative splits of the everyday self from this rageful, bad, or shadow self. This splitting of the original object into unintegrated parts may constitute the later split of the Dr. Jekyll (good, unaggressive, socialized self) from the Mr. Hyde (bad, aggressive, abusive, uncontrolled self). The two parts of the self are not integrated, and, to the extent that they appear in different situations, leave the person (and his or her partner) with the confusing task of reconciling two different selves. As battered women frequently say of their partner, “He’s like two different people.” (p. 128)… “When in their ‘normal’ phase, most assaultive men are unable to assert intimacy needs or dissatisfactions. As tension and feelings of being unloved and unappreciated build, the man’s ‘rageful self’ (held in abeyance and outside of consciousness) begins to emerge, and his view of his wife becomes increasingly negative.” (p. 139)

 

I believe that dissociation, for the most part, is primarily engendered in close family relationships, particularly in early childhood, rather than being simply a result of trauma. It results from difficulties in the attachment process, complicated by trauma. This is true even in victims of organized abuse, as the parents and extended family are frequently the primary perpetrators, and victims grow up with a disorganized attachment. Dissociation is key to the attachment disturbance in the perpetrator of IPV. Needy child parts of the abuser demand the kind of constant attention and attunement an infant needs, while protector parts are constantly alert for signs of rejection from the partner, and interpret any failure of complete attention by that partner as rejection and abandonment.

The abused partner

Stark (2007) insightfully points out that the theory of “battered woman’s syndrome” attributes post-traumatic stress disorder to victims of domestic violence, whereas their reactions to ongoing coercion and control and intermittent violence could better be seen as adaptive or intratraumatic. Dissociation is a very effective intra-traumatic response: it enables a person to live within a traumatizing situation without being overwhelmed.
My recent article in JTD looks at the dissociation in all family members described in the personal journal of a female victim of IPV. This woman initially consciously recognized and described her husband’s switches and his cycle, even though she did not know the term “dissociation,” but as time went on, she increasingly developed ego states complementary to his, so that her conscious awareness of the abuse was reduced in the safer parts of her husband’s cycle. Dissociation helped her manage to live in this intermittently frightening situation, but prevented her from seeing the danger when her husband was in a positive phase. However, she eventually became suspicious about her own dissociation, and developed a method of reducing it so she could see the whole picture rather than only one piece of it at a time. This enabled her to choose to leave.

The children

Children have to live with the different versions of their violent parent, who may also be capable of being kind, playful, entertaining, or nurturing. However, there is always the implied threat that if they don’t behave, feel, or think exactly as he wants, the abuse, shaming and rejection will become focused on them. The children of the spouse abuser may feel safest when being comforted by him—but the price of this safety is rejecting the evidence of their own eyes and ears. Furthermore, the children lack a calm, secure and attuned parent to attend to their distress as the victim-parent is also wounded and distressed.

 

This kind of home life breeds dissociation in children through creating disorganized attachment. Siegel (1999) suggests that “the parents of children with disorganized attachments have provided frightened, frightening, or disorienting shifts in their own behavior, which create conflictual experiences leading to incoherent mental models. Such a child may develop an internal mental model for each aspect of the parent’s behavior. Abrupt shifts in parental state force the child to adapt with suddenly shifting states of his own…. When such shifts are early, severe, and repeated, these states can become engrained in the child as self-states” (p. 317).

 

In IPV, as in familial child abuse, the abuser behaves very differently in the outside world than in the family, and the abuser has a rule (spoken or unspoken) not to tell what is going on in the home. The children therefore cannot articulate their experiences, and it is easiest for them, when out in the world, to simply not know the things they are supposed not to know at that time. They are also likely not to remember these experiences in adulthood. What we don’t remember, we may be likely to repeat.

 

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